Inside the Mind of the Single Guy

After reading this article, it just solidified what I've already known. Men expect women 2 act like men. Be detatched emotionally, view sex as a mandatory, recreational way 2 pass time w/o repercussions, kinda like watching football, or fishing or whatever. Women ain't wired like that guys...I love sex, but it means more 2 me than just something 2 do. I ain't gonna give up the goodies in the name of gaining relationship. It's not worth it. Not in a dating relationship. It would have 2 be a very committed dating relationship. Especially since all it does is create a relationship based on his needs only. Sure, I have a life. I'm independent. I've had 2 be. And I'll shower u w/all kinds of attention IF, and the article even says this, IF u take the initiative and persue me 1st. U know I'm interested. I've given u "the look." Probably more than once. Now it's your turn. If u don't try and talk 2 me, ur not interested. That's just a fact. Cuz trust me, if I try 2 talk 2 u 1st, and jump thru all ur hoops trying 2 get ur attention, what does the article say? U lose interest. So I ain't goin' there. It does help 2 know, and I'm hopin' the article is right, that men are not afraid of making a commitment. They go on a 1st date 2 c if they want a 2nd date? Really? That thought takes some pressure off...What continues 2 concern me is the apathetic attitude toward emotional intimacy. How many of us women have experienced a man sharing deep, emotionally intimate details about his life, not understanding that 2 a woman, this is almost the equivalent 2 emotional love making. It opens up a woman's soul 2 start breathing this man into their life, 2 fill in the empty spaces that long 2 b filled with, do I dare say it, love? I feel loved when a man opens up 2 me. I feel like he trusts me. U just know when a man is sharing something w/u that is more intimate than "just friends". It can feel inappropriate if that man is married. U put space between u and them cuz u know it just ain't right 2 talk about certain things with married men. But if the guy is single and persuing u, and I find out he's sharing the same intimate details w/another woman, checkin' her out at the same time 4 the same reasons, I feel violated. Exposed. Emotionally raped. Like he took something of mine that didn't belong 2 him. A piece of my heart. That's y I don't have sex casually. Intimacy has levels. And w/women, it starts w/the verbal. So, what I hear this article saying is, I, as a woman, am supposed 2 b more like a man. Unemotional, detatched, unavailable, free of responsibility, so he can feel like a man? No wonder I can't find a man. I'm not a man. I'm a woman. And I unbelievably act like one. Go figure.