Women's Goal on Going Out to Party?


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Skyking6976 is offline Skyking6976 Post #1  August 9,2009, 8:51am
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Spent the last 10 days flying around the country with an Aussie who bought an airplane from me. We spent a very long night in New Orleans and the Aussie asked me if women in the US leave the hotel dressed in various degrees of sexy with the hope of some wild passionate sex. I didn't know the answer to that. Told him my guess is women get dressed up to go party in the French Quarter or even when their home simply to be flirted with, have a guy buy them drinks or want guys to dance\talk to them. I guess women who go out as a group could just dress to impress each other. I've heard that before but it's usually in the context of older women. Of course unless a guy is married or in a serious relationship, most guys have the goal of going out to party to meet a woman for wild passionate sex.

What is on the mind of women when they go out for an evening of drinking\dancing\fun? Am I right? From a guy's perspective if I didn't want to meet a woman or whatever when I go out for the evening I'd just put on something comfortable, wear a ball cap, not shower and shave, etc., yet women always get cleaned up, wear makeup, dress sexy, etc.
 
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I'm a man. But my observations are that women dress to impress other women.
 
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Skyking6976 wrote :
What is on the mind of women when they go out for an evening of drinking\dancing\fun? Am I right?

From a guy's perspective if I didn't want to meet a woman or whatever when I go out for the evening I'd just put on something comfortable, wear a ball cap, not shower and shave, etc., .....
When I go out for an evening of drinking/dancing/fun that's what's on my mind... drinking/dancing/fun with my friends. If I should happen to meet a guy that would be great, but he's not going to get that night of wild sex THAT NIGHT!!!

As for guys not showering, shaving, etc. before they go out... Well, that's why women dress to please themselves. It's certainly not to impress the slobs at the next table!
 
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boccabum wrote :
I'm a man. But my observations are that women dress to impress other women.
I would agree with this.

Unless a woman is going out on a date then she is probably mostly dressing to impress other women. There are going to be some that are going out looking to snag a guy based on their looks.
 
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I can't say that I've ever dressed to "impress" other women (nor do I see my cohort of friends doing that, although I'm sure there are some women who do). Is dressing up always to impress? Or to feel a little different and dress for the occasion? For me, it's just a fun change to dress up from time to time since it's something that I do so rarely...

I haven't done the bar thing in a long time, but I never really used to dress up a whole to do that... In any event, going out to a bar for me was just a way to have fun with friends and hang out and maybe hit the dance floor.
 
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When I did more of this partying stuff I would go out in a group (guys/girls) and we would play drinking games and talk c**p. We would all get "cleaned up" (guys looked good/girls makeup and whatever they wanted to wear was fine) and pretty much just hang out and dance with each other. Sometimes people would approach and it was always welcome, but I cant remember one time when any single girl got together with any guy.

 
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OP: you ask this like people actually understand all their motives for doing things. There are probably a multitude of motives, 'goals', influences etc. that are part of people going out. These might changes a lot depending upon what's taking place in a person's life as well.
 
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I don't dress up to impress anyone, certainly not other women. When I slap on the war paint and dress up, it's to feel good about myself. If a man likes what he sees, great! Maybe I'll make a new friend or more. If a woman likes it, I couldn't care less other than the possibility of a new friend.
 
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Why on earth are so many men saying we women get dressed up to impress other women? I like to get dressed up, put on make-up and generally take time for my appearance for me, 'cause I like to feel pretty. It's certainly an improvement over how I look when I roll out of bed in the morning!

As for what's on my mind when I go out "partying," I do like to be flirted with. There are some nights when I'm out to attract admiring glances and flirty chit-chat. But usually I am going out with a group of friends to spend time with those friends.
 
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VictoriaJ wrote :
Why on earth are so many men saying we women get dressed up to impress other women? I like to get dressed up, put on make-up and generally take time for my appearance for me, 'cause I like to feel pretty. It's certainly an improvement over how I look when I roll out of bed in the morning!

As for what's on my mind when I go out "partying," I do like to be flirted with. There are some nights when I'm out to attract admiring glances and flirty chit-chat. But usually I am going out with a group of friends to spend time with those friends.
As a detached observer, I've seen women (in general-not you specifically) that are extremely competitive with other women for attention from men. While it might sound as an insult to one's gender, I can't lie by what I've personally observed. Plus, other women have admitted this to me when pressed.
 
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