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boccabum wrote :
As a detached observer, I've seen women (in general-not you specifically) that are extremely competitive with other women for attention from men. While it might sound as an insult to one's gender, I can't lie by what I've personally observed. Plus, other women have admitted this to me when pressed.
Wow. In that case, I'm grateful that I don't have that kind of "friends."
- August 9th, 2009, 01:42 pm
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As a detached observer, I've seen women (in general-not you specifically) that are extremely competitive with other women for attention from men. While it might sound as an insult to one's gender, I can't lie by what I've personally observed. Plus, other women have admitted this to me when pressed.
Some women may do this, but I tend to think these are the women who think that their looks will get them whatever they want.

When I take the time to put on make up and really look my best while out with friends, I do it for me. I don't do it to impress other women (I'm not interested in impressing women), and I don't do it to be in some ridiculous competition for the attention of men (the whole meat-market game is just so--don't get me started). If I choose to approach someone, or if someone chooses to approach me when I'm out with friends, that's fine, but there's no ulterior motive or hidden reason why there. Sometimes it just makes me feel good to look my best.
- August 9th, 2009, 01:45 pm
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Some women may do this, but I tend to think these are the women who think that their looks will get them whatever they want.

When I take the time to put on make up and really look my best while out with friends, I do it for me. I don't do it to impress other women (I'm not interested in impressing women), and I don't do it to be in some ridiculous competition for the attention of men (the whole meat-market game is just so--don't get me started). If I choose to approach someone, or if someone chooses to approach me when I'm out with friends, that's fine, but there's no ulterior motive or hidden reason why there. Sometimes it just makes me feel good to look my best.
I don't see any way that you can get around the fact that you want people to like what they see when they look at you.

There is an outward aspect to it. Other people's impressions do matter to varying degrees to everyone.

It does not have to be a competition per se.
- August 9th, 2009, 01:52 pm
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I don't see any way that you can get around the fact that you want people to like what they see when they look at you.

There is an outward aspect to it. Other people's impressions do matter to varying degrees to everyone.

It does not have to be a competition per se.
I don't think that women like WonderWoman, NearDC, Cimaronna, Brneyedangel and I are saying that looks don't matter at all. (There have been endless threads here on that topic...) I think we are saying that our looks matter, to some degree, to us, and not for the sake of competing with other women.

Actually, the five of us would make a good gang of girlfriends! Meet me in Vancouver for a night on the town, girls?
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Actually, the five of us would make a good gang of girlfriends! Meet me in Vancouver for a night on the town, girls?
Oh; that does sound like fun!
- August 9th, 2009, 02:02 pm
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Oh; that does sound like fun!
Look out Vancouver!
- August 9th, 2009, 02:04 pm
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boccabum wrote :
As a detached observer, I've seen women (in general-not you specifically) that are extremely competitive with other women for attention from men. While it might sound as an insult to one's gender, I can't lie by what I've personally observed. Plus, other women have admitted this to me when pressed.

What’s wrong with that?!

Competition for attention of the opposite gender is as old as dirt, way older than Darwin, and an antidote to growing old, too.
- August 9th, 2009, 02:11 pm
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Actually, the five of us would make a good gang of girlfriends! Meet me in Vancouver for a night on the town, girls?

I think guys are needed too!
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You know, before reading the comments here I assumed that on any given night a women going out on the town, if the stars aligned perfectly, the guys pheromones were an exact match and he was good looking, etc. a woman would end up sleeping with some guy. Interesting info on the way women think.

Now I don't feel so bad knowing I've only had sex with one woman who I met at a party...we had a mutual friend there. BTW, she was the best looking woman I've ever been with and she was the best lover for a couple of months before things got too complicated. I'm sure it was coincidence that she was the best.

I've also learned from comments here that guys who say they go out and pick up women all the time are full of BS. It may be more common for younger men and women...just a guess.
- August 9th, 2009, 02:16 pm
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Reason: And not for being kidnapped!
It's not so bad.
- August 9th, 2009, 02:19 pm
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