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What are your dealmakers?

What are the things that make you want to come closer, get a little vulnerable with this person, stick it out with them?

Just asking you to put one down. If you have more than one, I think it'd be good if you could post them separately. That way, we can think about what you said and not just skim down your list.

While this might be structured like a game, it isn't one at all.

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For example, one of mine is:

Is kind to people that he doesn't "have" to be kind to.
- August 9th, 2009, 09:31 am
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I wish I knew what it is that makes me want to get closer and try harder.
- August 9th, 2009, 09:36 am
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Has integrity and lives by it.
- August 9th, 2009, 09:37 am
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She offers to pay and means it (she's not after your money and is willing to spend her hard earned money on you without keeping scores)
- August 9th, 2009, 09:42 am
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Objective suitability; that we have compatible lifestyles, goals, values.
- August 9th, 2009, 09:42 am
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Competency and self-sufficiency: she manages her life effectively, acquires the resources to support her wants, and does not need her partner to manage her emotional state.
- August 9th, 2009, 09:46 am
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Tall, dark, handsome, smart, weathly, generous and has a good personality . . . I want it all!

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- August 9th, 2009, 09:57 am
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positive attitude, similar values, goals, kind heart, awesome sexual compatibility, communication... and a lot more
- August 9th, 2009, 10:02 am
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Someone who makes me feel incredibly sexy. One that just can't seem to keep his hands off me.
- August 9th, 2009, 10:24 am
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Understanding (and accepting) that many men have fragile egos, I would have to say a man whose ego is not so terribly fragile that everything is an affront to it or an insult. Knows the difference between teasing and disrespect. This is perfect when coupled with a great sense of humor.

One of the best examples of this is the relationship between Oliver and Jennifer in Love Story. Shes constantly ribbing him, but he "gets it"
- August 9th, 2009, 11:01 am
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