roxey is offline roxey Post #1  August 7,2009, 7:38pm
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I have not been on a date so long I would not know how to act any more . I really want to meet some one nice I have been hurt to many times in the past and dont want that happen again.
 
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goveg22 is offline goveg22 Post #2  August 12,2009, 8:25pm
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Just take things slowly. Don't rush! You will be fine!
 
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richey is offline richey Post #3  August 14,2009, 4:55pm
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Just be yourself and go not with the mindset that you are on a "date", go with the mindset that you are going out and having fun, and happen to be meeting somebody while doing it.

It might spark, it might not, but at least you're going out and having fun.

Good luck.
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hazmat is offline hazmat Post #4  August 14,2009, 5:32pm
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Just because they're nice doesn't mean they won't hurt you. Take things slow. Only you can keep yourself from being hurt. Look at actions, not words.
 
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I don't know if it exists in your area, but I've been doing a lot of group stuff through Meetup.com or maybe it's Meetups.com. Last night I went bowling with a bunch of people I didn't know. I was nervous, but I just jumped in and asked questions like "so what are you interested in?" or "do people ever tell you you look like someone famous?"(then be ready to tell them who you think they look like). OMG that sounds so cheesy to me all of a sudden, but it worked for me. Anyway, there are usually guys and girls in those groups so it's all very casual and you're doing something together so if you haven't got much to say that's ok. Make eye contact as much as possible, breathe and smile. That will not only give you practice in a social environment but you might even meet some singles to date.
 
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For your first date, you should go somewhere that allows you a quick escape if you need it but also with light entertainment, a place where you can get to know your date a little better but also a relaxing environment. Jazz club comes to mind, but there are plenty other places. Just be yourself and take it step by step.
 
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #7  August 14,2009, 9:50pm
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1. You have already arrived at the state of mind where you know that something is missing from your life. Strangely enough, realizing that we need someone other than ourseves and acknowledging this fact can sometimes be the most difficult part. You are not going to find it if you don't give yourself the best chance of finding it.

2. Stop worrying. Relax. Breathe - in and out.
You are not going to meet a crocodile (hopefully ), just another human being. Not all of them are nice, although most are, I believe. Of those who are nice, unfortunately, most are not compatible with us. But you are only looking for 1, aren't you?

3. Take advice from the other posters - you have some realisticwords of wisdom here on offer. All well intended to help you reach your goal.

Good Luck!
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #8  August 15,2009, 3:25am
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If you've been hurt in the past, guard your heart and don't fall for any of the bad guys.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
If you've been hurt in the past, guard your heart and don't fall for any of the bad guys.
I love your hidden depths, Mr!
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #10  August 15,2009, 4:36am
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Be yourself and you will do fine on dates.

View going on dates for the fun of the date not as that every first date is going to be "the one".

Go on dates with almost anyone at least once.

Go with an open mind that you are going to have fun and that you may learn something about what you want or something that you don't want in a partner.
 
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