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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #11  August 7,2009, 9:23pm
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Do you have call waiting?
 
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hawqeye is offline hawqeye Post #12  August 7,2009, 9:51pm
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jec30 wrote :
Maybe I'm old fashioned (I'm only 31) but I tend to think it's in the guys hands to make the call. I can't imagine waiting five days to call a girl that I am even remotely interested.
+1 here.

If I am interested, I will make it clear. Yes I will give a day or two between communications sometimes.
 
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Bottom line is this. If he is interested he'll call. It's that simple!! there is nothing more to it! Plus you don't want to be like Gigi from the movie "He's not that into you".

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hawqeye wrote :
+1 here.

If I am interested, I will make it clear. Yes I will give a day or two between communications sometimes.
But would you + a meow or + a purr then?
 
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ok my first date with this great guy went great. Well first of all he gave me his number and i call the next day. Then we made plans to get together on Sunday. The date went great or so I thought we have alot in common and he said he had a great time twice in the car and once when we parted. He gave me a full hug and kiss. Then he said we have a lot of movies to catch up on and said he would call me soon. What is this supposed to mean? So now it has been 5 days and no communcation yet. I really feel like calling, but not sure if that would be the right thing to do. Maybe just give him his space. Now in addition it always seems to take him a bit longer to contact me just because during the week he is busy with work, but if he were that into me wouldn,t he make time to call. please help all advice is apreciated.
Just call him once. Or even shoot him a text saying "Hey, what's up?"
 
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But guys are all dfferent. The one I'm seeing now didn't call for 9 days after our 2nd date, so I assumed he had moved on. Then he called and asked me out, and I figured what the heck, he's nice and he's cute, so I went. At dinner, I told him that I had pretty much written him off as obviously not interested and he looked shocked. As far as he was concerned, he had told me I was pretty and nice, so why would he poof? He doesn't live in the same high-speed world that I do, so his thinking isn't going to be the same.

Age, background, lifestyle, upbringing - all of these things make people view the world and dating differently. The only way you can tell what someone is thinking is to ask.
 
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chawks64 wrote :
But guys are all dfferent. The one I'm seeing now didn't call for 9 days after our 2nd date, so I assumed he had moved on. Then he called and asked me out, and I figured what the heck, he's nice and he's cute, so I went. At dinner, I told him that I had pretty much written him off as obviously not interested and he looked shocked. As far as he was concerned, he had told me I was pretty and nice, so why would he poof? He doesn't live in the same high-speed world that I do, so his thinking isn't going to be the same.

Age, background, lifestyle, upbringing - all of these things make people view the world and dating differently. The only way you can tell what someone is thinking is to ask.
VERY WELL SAID! I think that people incorrectly place their own notions of proper behavior on someone else then blame them when they don't follow it. Many men have different time frames on when to call back. It's not necessarily game playing, wrong, mean or hurtful. It's just different.
I've met women before, enjoyed their company and when I said I'd call back (with all intentions of doing so) did call after a few days. By then, I was accused of poofing and written off.
 
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dayz wrote :
ok my first date with this great guy went great. Well first of all he gave me his number and i call the next day. Then we made plans to get together on Sunday. The date went great or so I thought we have alot in common and he said he had a great time twice in the car and once when we parted. He gave me a full hug and kiss. Then he said we have a lot of movies to catch up on and said he would call me soon. What is this supposed to mean? So now it has been 5 days and no communcation yet. I really feel like calling, but not sure if that would be the right thing to do. Maybe just give him his space. Now in addition it always seems to take him a bit longer to contact me just because during the week he is busy with work, but if he were that into me wouldn,t he make time to call. please help all advice is apreciated.
i wouldnt call. dont put any stock in what he is saying to you.

let him go on to find someone he is very interested in.


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dayz wrote :
ok my first date with this great guy went great. Well first of all he gave me his number and i call the next day. Then we made plans to get together on Sunday. The date went great or so I thought we have alot in common and he said he had a great time twice in the car and once when we parted. He gave me a full hug and kiss. Then he said we have a lot of movies to catch up on and said he would call me soon. What is this supposed to mean? So now it has been 5 days and no communcation yet. I really feel like calling, but not sure if that would be the right thing to do. Maybe just give him his space. Now in addition it always seems to take him a bit longer to contact me just because during the week he is busy with work, but if he were that into me wouldn,t he make time to call. please help all advice is apreciated.
I read in a book that it is OK to "contact" (i.e vmail, email, etc.) a man if you are "interested" in hearing from him and some time has passed since you last spoke with him (in the same book it read that even if he wants to call back, if he let too much time pass he will also feel akward). You can say something like, ".....I was thinking @ you and hope you are doing fine. I realize I haven't spoken with you in a while and I want you to know it is OK to call.....". Note: You can not say this if you have an ulterior motive, meaning, although you are hoping he responds, if he does not contact you then you can not get "upset" that the outcome was not what you wanted. Note: It took me some time to read the book I am referencing here.....and it has been some time ago since I read it.....but I hope this helps, if not you, someone else.

I wish you well.
 
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If they are truly interested…they will call or send an email to let you know what is up and they will follow-up. They definitely want to get your attention. Don’t waste time worrying about one guy. Go out with friends or other dates. If he is interested he will call.
 
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