Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Dating First-date jitters? Hoping for a second date? Moving on to a full blown relationship? Share your journey and advice here.

Reply
Page 2 of 3 1 2 3
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
IcecreamMoon IcecreamMoon is offline
IcecreamMoon's Avatar

IcecreamMoon Nothing to see here at all...

Virtuoso

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 2,848

See profile

Do you have call waiting?
- August 7th, 2009, 10:23 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#11   Reply With Quote
hawqeye hawqeye is offline
hawqeye's Avatar

hawqeye Talk about a rough couple of weeks.

Quick Study

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 106

See profile

jec30 wrote :
Maybe I'm old fashioned (I'm only 31) but I tend to think it's in the guys hands to make the call. I can't imagine waiting five days to call a girl that I am even remotely interested.
+1 here.

If I am interested, I will make it clear. Yes I will give a day or two between communications sometimes.
- August 7th, 2009, 10:51 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#12   Reply With Quote
Zinger84 Zinger84 is offline
Zinger84's Avatar

Join Date: Aug 2009

Posts: 1

See profile

Bottom line is this. If he is interested he'll call. It's that simple!! there is nothing more to it! Plus you don't want to be like Gigi from the movie "He's not that into you".

Z
- August 7th, 2009, 10:55 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#13   Reply With Quote
IcecreamMoon IcecreamMoon is offline
IcecreamMoon's Avatar

IcecreamMoon Nothing to see here at all...

Virtuoso

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 2,848

See profile

hawqeye wrote :
+1 here.

If I am interested, I will make it clear. Yes I will give a day or two between communications sometimes.
But would you + a meow or + a purr then?
- August 8th, 2009, 12:14 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#14   Reply With Quote
Mr_Right Mr_Right is offline
Mr_Right's Avatar

Mr_Right says check out the new profile picture

Virtuoso

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 2,877

See profile

dayz wrote :
ok my first date with this great guy went great. Well first of all he gave me his number and i call the next day. Then we made plans to get together on Sunday. The date went great or so I thought we have alot in common and he said he had a great time twice in the car and once when we parted. He gave me a full hug and kiss. Then he said we have a lot of movies to catch up on and said he would call me soon. What is this supposed to mean? So now it has been 5 days and no communcation yet. I really feel like calling, but not sure if that would be the right thing to do. Maybe just give him his space. Now in addition it always seems to take him a bit longer to contact me just because during the week he is busy with work, but if he were that into me wouldn,t he make time to call. please help all advice is apreciated.
Just call him once. Or even shoot him a text saying "Hey, what's up?"
- August 8th, 2009, 05:52 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#15   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

chawks64 chawks64 is online now
chawks64's Avatar

chawks64 can finally put country music back n the lineup again.

Virtuoso

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 3,943

See profile

But guys are all dfferent. The one I'm seeing now didn't call for 9 days after our 2nd date, so I assumed he had moved on. Then he called and asked me out, and I figured what the heck, he's nice and he's cute, so I went. At dinner, I told him that I had pretty much written him off as obviously not interested and he looked shocked. As far as he was concerned, he had told me I was pretty and nice, so why would he poof? He doesn't live in the same high-speed world that I do, so his thinking isn't going to be the same.

Age, background, lifestyle, upbringing - all of these things make people view the world and dating differently. The only way you can tell what someone is thinking is to ask.
- August 8th, 2009, 08:03 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#16   Reply With Quote
boccabum boccabum is offline
boccabum's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: Nov 2008

Posts: 976

See profile

chawks64 wrote :
But guys are all dfferent. The one I'm seeing now didn't call for 9 days after our 2nd date, so I assumed he had moved on. Then he called and asked me out, and I figured what the heck, he's nice and he's cute, so I went. At dinner, I told him that I had pretty much written him off as obviously not interested and he looked shocked. As far as he was concerned, he had told me I was pretty and nice, so why would he poof? He doesn't live in the same high-speed world that I do, so his thinking isn't going to be the same.

Age, background, lifestyle, upbringing - all of these things make people view the world and dating differently. The only way you can tell what someone is thinking is to ask.
VERY WELL SAID! I think that people incorrectly place their own notions of proper behavior on someone else then blame them when they don't follow it. Many men have different time frames on when to call back. It's not necessarily game playing, wrong, mean or hurtful. It's just different.
I've met women before, enjoyed their company and when I said I'd call back (with all intentions of doing so) did call after a few days. By then, I was accused of poofing and written off.
- August 8th, 2009, 09:04 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#17   Reply With Quote
Nanette Nanette is offline
Nanette's Avatar

Nanette is tired of reading about ancient civilizations so here i am!

Veteran

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 1,041

See profile

dayz wrote :
ok my first date with this great guy went great. Well first of all he gave me his number and i call the next day. Then we made plans to get together on Sunday. The date went great or so I thought we have alot in common and he said he had a great time twice in the car and once when we parted. He gave me a full hug and kiss. Then he said we have a lot of movies to catch up on and said he would call me soon. What is this supposed to mean? So now it has been 5 days and no communcation yet. I really feel like calling, but not sure if that would be the right thing to do. Maybe just give him his space. Now in addition it always seems to take him a bit longer to contact me just because during the week he is busy with work, but if he were that into me wouldn,t he make time to call. please help all advice is apreciated.
i wouldnt call. dont put any stock in what he is saying to you.

let him go on to find someone he is very interested in.


Last edited by Nanette; August 8th, 2009 at 09:22 am.
- August 8th, 2009, 09:20 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#18   Reply With Quote
dnnmllr dnnmllr is online now
dnnmllr's Avatar

dnnmllr "Steady my feet in accord with your promise, Let not iniquity lead me"...

Veteran

Join Date: Feb 2008

Posts: 1,451

See profile

dayz wrote :
ok my first date with this great guy went great. Well first of all he gave me his number and i call the next day. Then we made plans to get together on Sunday. The date went great or so I thought we have alot in common and he said he had a great time twice in the car and once when we parted. He gave me a full hug and kiss. Then he said we have a lot of movies to catch up on and said he would call me soon. What is this supposed to mean? So now it has been 5 days and no communcation yet. I really feel like calling, but not sure if that would be the right thing to do. Maybe just give him his space. Now in addition it always seems to take him a bit longer to contact me just because during the week he is busy with work, but if he were that into me wouldn,t he make time to call. please help all advice is apreciated.
I read in a book that it is OK to "contact" (i.e vmail, email, etc.) a man if you are "interested" in hearing from him and some time has passed since you last spoke with him (in the same book it read that even if he wants to call back, if he let too much time pass he will also feel akward). You can say something like, ".....I was thinking @ you and hope you are doing fine. I realize I haven't spoken with you in a while and I want you to know it is OK to call.....". Note: You can not say this if you have an ulterior motive, meaning, although you are hoping he responds, if he does not contact you then you can not get "upset" that the outcome was not what you wanted. Note: It took me some time to read the book I am referencing here.....and it has been some time ago since I read it.....but I hope this helps, if not you, someone else.

I wish you well.
- August 8th, 2009, 10:15 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#19   Reply With Quote
PhotoSavy PhotoSavy is offline
PhotoSavy's Avatar

PhotoSavy Enjoying the day!

Quick Study

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 183

See profile

If they are truly interested…they will call or send an email to let you know what is up and they will follow-up. They definitely want to get your attention. Don’t waste time worrying about one guy. Go out with friends or other dates. If he is interested he will call.
- August 8th, 2009, 10:31 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#20   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

Reply
Page 2 of 3 1 2 3

Bookmarks

« I apologize to those I affended, but we all have stupid reasons for not dating! | Array | When is it professionally ok and not ok to date a girl? »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
He still hasn't returned my call when he gave me his phone number. Rochelle1975 Ask a Dating Expert 10 September 12th, 2009 12:28 pm
Should I call or wait for him? LilC Dating 13 August 14th, 2009 06:12 pm
Why don't they call? christina72800 Using eHarmony 9 May 21st, 2009 08:00 am

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Tongue in cheek. Frog, help me out here? Where do you want my tongue?” – D_Lion

Join the “Is a Cruise a good Date?” discussion

“ My chair is big enough for two and I have extra fleecey blankets. But he must not talk during movies. It's a very strict rule. ” – littlebluemonkeymind

Join the “Is everyone but me dating?” discussion

“ amen to that sister ... mind you I recall a few times with late wife when there was some disharmony over what was meant be right time ... I tend the feel that we are responsible if we have sex not ... ” – Fleuellen

Join the “Gods will and sex vs abstinence for older folks” discussion

“It's a few days before Thanksgiving. I've heard that Thanksgiving is a holiday that just can't be commercialized. We buy food and give thanks. Besides the expense of traveling---that is that! ... ” – jsbach

Join the “This is the Day !” discussion

“I am sure that a great many are going to disagree with me on this one but ........ It is unlikely that a purely sexual relationship is going to turn into an emotionally based committed long term ... ” – TiffanyDiamond

Join the “bootycall” discussion

“Wait until you meet the family :-) No, seriously, wait until you meet the family. It is a little soon to be moving in together. Not that it couldn't work. But, there's a big difference between ... ” – trackstar

Join the “Advice Needed -- What's Next?” discussion

“ So, people, here are my questions for you: Did you ever get in the wrong line yourself? Did you do it deliberately, or inadvertently? Have you ever counted somebody else's groceries? Did you ever ... ” – Lilycat

Join the “Ever been Caught in the Wrong Line?” discussion

“need... that... action... figure...” – Kinjia

Join the “No Excuse for this thread...” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:58 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0