5 Reasons Divorced Women Get Married Quicker

5 Reasons Divorced Women Get Married Quicker

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roguewolf1 is offline roguewolf1 Post #1  August 6,2009, 9:41pm

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A divorced woman can walk into a bar and get a date in one day.   Meanwhile it can take a man years to get a date.  
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #2  August 6,2009, 9:56pm
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roguewolf1 wrote :
A divorced woman can walk into a bar and get a date in one day. Meanwhile it can take a man years to get a date.
I can't help but wonder, then, with whom the divorced women are getting those dates when they walk into a bar....
 
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A man is likely to look at woman in her mid-30s and think what's wrong with her if she's never been married?

Oh boy, here I go...

How about she went to school?

How about she's intelligent and she pursued a career because that's what was important to her at the time?

How about she had family members to care for?

How about she doesn't want to settle for less than what she knows she deserves?

How about she wasn't mature enough to take on marriage at a younger age?

How about any number of legitimate reasons?

How about there's nothing wrong with her?

This kind of stuff really gets under my skin (Can you tell?). I know it's just a silly article, and I know I shouldn't give it a second thought, but still, I just can't help myself...I really can't wrap my mind around that concept. I certainly don't view men in this light (and no guys, I'm not assuming this author is correct in her assertions, either). So I guess it would follow that being hugely successful in my career thus far means there's something wrong with me, and I suppose even more so since I'm staring at 40 in a few months here. That's ridiculous!

It's a really good thing I don't subscribe to this notion myself, or I'd be defeated and single forever!

OK, done now.
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Gosh, I've never gotten a date just from having entered a bar. Men may smile from their barstool, but they don't tend to approach me. The blame doesn't rest on them; when I'm out, I am there for my pleasure and am not necessarily looking for a mate.

The article makes some good points, ones that I've seen played out in the real world. At the same time though, I can't help feeling that divorced women have a harder time gaining a man's interest because of the potential baggage factor (failed relationship,regardless of the reasons = baggage). And if said woman has children, the opportunities for dates seem to decrease exponentially.

I don't believe divorced and dating is a hopeless cause; there are too many people out there who have done and are doing it successfully. The dating pool is more select. This could simply be a reflection of the preferences of available men in my area.

I'm curious to know what other people think.
 
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jsbach is offline jsbach Post #5  August 6,2009, 10:18pm
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neardc wrote :
I can't help but wonder, then, with whom the divorced women are getting those dates when they walk into a bar....
Excellent point!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #6  August 6,2009, 10:28pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I won't comment on the part about women...but I think the part about men's perception of divorced women is largely false.

'You get brownie points because someone picked you before'?....I don't see it. Perhaps the author is a woman and this is how she thinks, but I don't hear of men doing this.

From my own experience and what I've heard from other men I think we operate on a much more 'gut' level. We may take in the information whether a woman has been previously married before or not....but I don't think this is going to have much of an effect on most of us as to whether we'll be interested in a woman or not.
 
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I don't know about divorced women, but I read a magazine article once that said divorced men remarry an average of 2 years after their divorce.

They liked being married and miss it! And they don't have the fear of the unknown mindset.
 
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Based on the title of the article and comments so far, I expected this article to be about why divorced women get remarried faster than divorced men... but it's not. It's about how divorced women get remarried faster than a never married woman of the same age will get married.

Just thinking in my own circle of friends, I think there is a level of truth to this. My never-married women friends don't have any serious romances in their lives and really don't even date that much. My divorced friends (and me!) date much more often or are in long-term romantic relationships. Part of the difference, I think, is my divorced friends are used to being in a relationship and like it so make it a priority in their lives, while my never-married friends have filled their lives with other priorities and aren't even necessarily seeking relationships.

Just my observations from my little slice of life. Your experience may be far different.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  August 6,2009, 10:38pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Based on the title of the article and comments so far, I expected this article to be about why divorced women get remarried faster than divorced men... but it's not. It's about how divorced women get remarried faster than a never married woman of the same age will get married.
Nor is there any actual data regarding how fast divorced women get married vs. never married women (or men). It's just what someone 'thinks'. I mean, do previously married women actually get married faster? How about first determining if the premise is actually true.
 
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The data about remarriage may be based upon public divorce and marriage records.

Three times's a charm. Or in Liz Taylor's case... eight times and counting.

Zsa Zsa Gabor is famous for saying "All husbands are the same, so you might as well keep the first one."
 
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