Anyone dated a divorced man with 4 kids?


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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #11  August 7,2009, 7:36am
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First you have to ask yourself how you feel about children in general. If you have a desire to have children in your life and can accept children that are not your own then at this point there is no problem. However you are fast approaching the point where you would not be having children of your own and have never been married so it maybe that having children in your life is not something that you want in which case this guy would not be the one for you.

In any case you will only know if you fit with his children and they with you after you have met them. On this subject I disagree with most people here in that I think that you should meet the children after you both have decided that there could be something long term but well before you become so emotionally involved that either of you become seriously hurt if you and the children don't mesh.
 
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yeoww wrote :
Have you met Harvey7? I think the two of you would make a great match
True, and they might both be wearing matching orange during the divorce proceedings.
 
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I met a divorced man and he seems a very man and so far we get along pretty good, even though just friends so far and trying to get to know each other...he didn't wanted the divorce but his wife betrayed him and moved on with another man.Since i am single with no kids i am a bit worried i might not fit in and manage well with his life and also his kids...what kind of advice you give me?what should i do?should i take this chance and risk?i appreciate your help..thanks!!!!
Yes. My advice to you is to take it slow...and do everything you can to keep the children from getting too involved or too attached until you're sure it's going to be a permanant relationship. When you break up with someone with kids, the whole family gets hurt.
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From what you have said he's explained the failures in his previous marriages and accepts responsibility for his failings in them as well which is a good sign he's not blaming everyone else and making himself out to be a saint. He has a good relationship with his kids which is reassuring as it means he takes his responsibilities towards them seriously. The question you need to discuss with him when you feel the time is right is would he want any more children but in the meantime enjoy the relationship you have, don't take it too seriously for now and just see how it develops. In time your own instincts will tell you if this is right for you and I think they are telling you that deep down judging by the way you've phrased everything. Good Luck.


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gillianreynolds22 wrote :
From what you have said he's explained the failures in his previous marriages and accepts responsibility for his failings in them as well which is a good sign he's not blaming everyone else and making himself out to be a saint. He has a good relationship with his kids which is reassuring as it means he takes his responsibilities towards them seriously. The question you need to discuss with him when you feel the time is right is would he want any more children but in the meantime enjoy the relationship you have, don't take it too seriously for now and just see how it develops. In time your own instincts will tell you if this is right for you and I think they are telling you that deep down judging by the way you've phrased everything. Good Luck.
Gillian..welcome to the boards...

Just an FYI..this particular thread is from back in 2009...so while this subject may be of interest to you and others...just wanted to say that you probably won't get any info back from the OP as she is long gone...you can glance at the date in the upper right hand corner when posting
 
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