treeye is offline treeye Post #1  August 5,2009, 9:31am
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normally I would't date a recently divorced guy because normally I was looking for a LTR.

but this time since i've to relocate in eight months, i guess i shouldn't expect a LTR to happen in this period.it's too hard to forsee what's ahead of me. he knew my situation , and he clearly told me he doesn't want to jump into something too serious after his recent divorce. so we'll just see how it goes...

I know in the bottom of my heart i'm still longing for a relationship that lasts but I think i understand our situation and would control the output of my emotions and expectations.

any things I should be aware of ? i don't want to be hurt and hurt him.thanks.
 
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One thing that you should be aware of is that you cannot control your emotions and whether or not you get attached to someone. Life is all about chances and taking risks. Every single time you get involved with someone you risk getting hurt - it's just the nature of the game. You can either run away or take the chance and see what happens. The best question to ask yourself perhaps is would you look back and regret if you did not give it a shot?
 
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Once his divorce is final then it would be appropriate to date him but not before. Speaking from experience I think the divorce needs to be final and the person have six months past the final decree. The reason I say this is you do not want to be the rebound person. Normally a newly divorced person rarely is truly adjusted to their new conditions and lifestyle. They need time to discover what they truly want out of life and the type of person they are willing to commit to in the future. Good luck
 
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i figured i'll relocate next yr and i don't know when and where, a LTR probably won't work out anyway, so it doesn't matter he's recently divorced or not... that's partly why i think i'll take a chance
 
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I've dated a few men who were recently divorced and unfortunately they didn't work out. I agree with the other posts. After someone gets divorced they need time for healing and getting to know themselves. Sometimes they're a completely different person than they thought they were.
 
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A good friend of mine who is recently divorced told me all the girls he is meeting all want "really fast" commitment. Straight up, he told me he is looking for something casual, fun, but not serious. If this guy is straight up telling you that is what he is looking for, and that is not what you are looking for, I think you're wasting your time. Waiting until you guys are on the same page about what you want out of dating seems like the better option... or better yet, find someone else who is already on your wavelength.
 
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