Has anyone had any luck with "It's Just Lunch"


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MarkInAustin is offline MarkInAustin Post #1  August 4,2009, 6:11pm
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Has anyone here had any luck with "It's Just Lunch"? I see their adds in the in-flight magazine when I fly somewhere. They advertise that they are a matchmaking service for busy professionals. I was wondering if they actually give you anything for the expense, or do they just fix you up with the first 12 people who sign up (in order to meet their obligation).
 
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I think it's a franchise ... quality likely will vary according to the individual businesspeople you contract with.

Also, it will surely help if it's popular in your area.
 
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I saw that for the first time when I last flew, never had heard of it. Ignored it, I have already spent far too much money on dating sites. Now time to invest my money and things that are tangible and bring me more enjoyment.
 
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I did this several years back. It was extremely expensive, and the matches were awful. Breathing, 2 legs, 2 arms...that seemed to be the only thing we all had in common.

I paid for 12 dates, almost $2000, but I asked them to stop after about 5 or 6 dates. Of course, no refund, but I just couldn't go on one more. Excruciating.

OK, having said that, I have a friend who married a guy from IJL almost 2 years ago. They are absolutely the most ecstatically happy couple I've ever seen. Both over 40, both very attractive, professional, etc. It was her first date, out of the gate. So it can work!
 
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My sister and a friend have both tried IJL. Neither one had any real success.

They will make a big deal about trying to match you personally with people... but it really boils down to they can only match you with whoever else has signed up in your location.

My sister... well, she had some issues and I don't think anyone would have been a good match for her at the time.

My friend's matches that she described to me... some seemed well-matched, at least on paper. A few seemed like they were from outer space. Two of her good matches that she told me about... one was a minister, the other was the same nationality as the foreign children she adopted. She actually went out with him several times but he lived nearly an hour away and neither one of them could move for 15 or more years (due to child custody restrictions and job-related reasons), so she didn't see much point in continuing seeing him.

Neither one of them used all of the matches they paid for, neither one of them found "the one," and it was very expensive. But considering what I paid for a year of eHarmony that yielded zero dates, on a per-date cost it may not have been such a bad deal. At least you are guaranteed a certain number of actual face-to-face meetings with other eligible people.
 
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I thought this was going to be a thread about lunch dates
 
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DeBrown is offline DeBrown Post #7  September 5,2009, 6:58pm
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Hi,

I know this is an ancient thread but I'll stick in my two cents worth anyway. :-)

A very good friend of mine signed up for IJL here (in Seattle).

Gr8guyn2008, I think it's only available in major metropolitan areas. It is marketed to professionals who work downtown and meet for lunch. They say meeting for lunch because a) you only have an hour or so, so you won't get stuck spending several hours with someone you don't like, as you might over dinner and b) the more casual atmosphere of lunch is less threatening and c) these are busy professional people who don't have a lot of time for dating.

Supposedly they screen people to make sure they are working professionals. That is supposedly so you won't get gold diggers just after you for your money. You're all professionals so presumably you all have a certain amount of money.

You are also GUARANTEED a certain number of face to face dates (depending upon how much you pay).

Anyway... my friend is a licensed nurse practioner with her own practice. She is 53.

After a couple of weeks on IJL, they called her and told her they could not find enough men in her age range, and so they refunded all her money. (I suspect it was actually that they couldn't find enough men who would date someone in her age range.)

She is now living with a man she met on eharmony. :-)
 
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I J L is common both in San Diego and here is the Seattle area as well. The bottom line is the same, just costs more thats all.
 
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Funny that you say that, Laughingdaily (and by the way I LOVE that name!). Funny, because the first time I ever heard of IJL was in 2001 when I was living in San Diego! They advertised heavily in the San Diego magazine, which I read, and in other "upscale" types of magazines. (Believe me, I wasn't upscale at all, just read the mags! LOL)

And now I am back "home" in Seattle. So funny that you mentioned both cities. :-)
 
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I signed up for It's Just Lunch in January of 2006. It was a big step for me. It was my first foray into the dating scene since, well, forever. I had high expectations going in and sincerely hoped that these professionals would be able to match me up with other single professional women in their twenties who were smart, ambitious, and hopefully somewhat decent looking.

I paid $1,500 for a one-year membership or 14 first dates, whichever came later. That was the standard package, but you could do six- or nine-month options for less money if you wanted. The service also allows you to put your membership "on hold" for up to one year at no extra cost. So, if you meet someone you want to see exclusively or you just want to take a break from dating, you can ask them to not send you any new matches and it would not count against you.

Like eHarmony, IJL will select a match for you instead of asking you choose from a list of clients. In the beginning, you do an in-person interview that lasts up to an hour. They take your photo, ask you questions about yourself, past relationships, what sort of hobbies you enjoy, and what you are looking for in another person. They use this information to match you with people they think would be a good match. When they have a match for you, they call and give you some basic information about him/her. They then find out when you both are available and try to find a convenient meeting place. All you need to do is show up when and where they tell you. If you like the person, you can exchange numbers and go from there. If not, you walk away with no commitment. IJL just ask that you call them back within 24 hours to give them some feedback about the date so that they can apply that information to your next match.

In all, I met 10 women throughout the course of my membership. A couple dates went well, the rest not so much. After a date, I would usually receive another match two to three weeks later and then it could take another two weeks to find a time when both of us could get together. Quite often, the women would change their plans at the last minute, which was very frustrating. I also didn't like how it could take so long to receive a match.

Despite all of this, you could say I had some success with IJL. I did end up dating someone they set me up with for about four months. However, that relationship crashed and burned under the weight of our incompatibility. Deep down the two of us had nothing in common, and a complete lack of trust and communication eventually did us in. Plus, she was completely crazy. :P

In all, I don't fault IJL with being unable to find me the love of my life. I did get what I paid for: the chance to meet other single professional women in my area. It also helped me get back into the dating pool again after a long absence. Most importantly, it gave me a chance to figure out what I wanted in a woman, mostly through discovering what I didn't want. That's not to say that they successful, busy women weren't all fine in their own way. It's just that they weren't right for me.

Oh, and you may be wondering why I only met 10 women when my membership called for 14. After breaking up with my IJL girlfriend, I took a month off from dating and went back to IJL. After a couple more bad dates and slow response times, I decided to try eHarmony as another way of meeting people. I was promptly matched with my fiancée and I've never looked back.

Finally, just for the sake of comparison, I paid about $60 for my three-month membership with eHarmony. I'd say it was a much better value overall than IJL.
 
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