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delux269 is offline delux269 Post #1  August 4,2009, 2:54pm
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This ia an age old question. But literally my entire life I have NEVER had a woman be attracted to me. It's sad. I have just a general question and that simpy is: How do I get women to like me in a relationship sense and not just as a friend? I am a really nice guy, and it just doesn't seem right that no women are ever attracted to me.
 
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How do you know this?

Are you waiting for them to approach you? Really, pick some that you want and either start a conversation, or just ask her out.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  August 4,2009, 3:11pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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How do you know this?
I was just going to say something similar. OP...believe me, you HAVE had (and continue to have) women who were attracted to you, they just didn't tell you.
 
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Well whenever I talk to women my age, they always seem like they just aren't interested in talking to me period. Not even just a simple conversation. I wouldn't ask a woman out without knowing her really well first.
 
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Couple of problems with this:
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[quote=delux269;698913]
Well whenever I talk to women my age, they always seem like they just aren't interested in talking to me period. Not even just a simple conversation. I wouldn't ask a woman out without knowing her really well first.




I don't know what you mean by "interested". I find it difficult (if not impossible) to believe none have ever been interested in you. I wonder if you expect them to behave a certain way, say something special, do something, give you a hint somehow; and, when it's not forthcoming, you just assume they're not "interested", and you give up? I find that far more likely.

But I can tell you that if you wait until you "know her really well" before you ask her out, you'll have a very long wait! You'll probably get assigned to the "friend" category. Most men here will tell you that's the Kiss of Death. I can tell you I never turned around and dated a "friend".

Every man who ever asked me out I didn't know very well first. Every single one! And I've been married twice. Yes, I'm way older than you, so I ought to know a thing or two about being asked out on dates.

If I were you, I would get involved in activities I enjoy (but make sure they're also enjoyed by the girls!). That way, you will be meeting people who like what you like.

I took the liberty of checking your Profile page. Your interests of watching & playing sports, reading magazines, and your computer are going to be limiting your ability to attract women. Are you in college? Do you work?

I hate to say it, but I think you should look at developing some other interests. I don't know where you live, but if it were a reasonably sized city, there are surely opportunities that could present itself. Museums, art galleries, music concerts, city parks, etc.

Do you skate, ride bikes, hike? There's got to be something besides the solitary pursuits on your Profile page. That's where I would start.

Good luck.
 
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[quote=D_Lion;698938]Couple of problems with this:
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How about this? Get to really know her name, maybe a little about her and then ask her out to pave the way to get to know her really well? It seems you're waiting to establish a relationship before having a first date. It's not that they aren't interested, they think you aren't!!
 
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The best thing you could do is turn off the computer and go outside. The sad fact is, some of us guys don't make good Internet eye candy. We have to get by on our charm and personality instead. Women have fallen for me, but never because I had a pretty picture in my profile.
 
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I agree with most of the posts here - you really need to cultivate other interests aside from what you've listed - please don't take this the wrong way but your profile screams - "has no life". I've been married twice myself (and have kids older than you) and am - once again, out there looking. I look for someone well rounded who is comfortable in many situations, is well read with a sense of humor - your personality has to shine through. Be BOLD.
 
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