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Here's the question that is up for debate. Being a good looking woman or man, do you think this helps or hinders your chances of finding matches on EH.
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- August 4th, 2009, 11:04 am
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Hinder - you have to overcome so many stereotypes and judgemental attitudes before you can even stand a chance and it makes your dating pool pretty small because most will be too insecure to date you.
- August 4th, 2009, 11:22 am
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Helps. People are attracted to beauty.
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It can seriously hinder, an absolute stunner will always be flooded with far more attempts at contact, to the point where it's impossible to trawl through them and find the gold in the dross.

Then there's the untouchable goddess syndrome, perfectly ok guys hanging back because they figure they haven't got a chance in hell and shouldn't even try.

I know i'm hesitant to ask a woman out if she's way out of my league, i hate swiming with the sharks and there's always that little voice at the back of my mind saying "Get real!!" and i don't even have an inferiority complex to deal with. In that case i need to see some interest from her before i'll get out the harpoon gun.

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Helps to a point. If you are attractive, then people will be naturally drawn to you. However, if you are extremely beautiful or amazingly handsome, then I've heard people complain that there are stereotypes and the insecurities of others to overcome.
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gothustartus wrote :
It can seriously hinder, an absolute stunner will always be flooded with far more attempts at contact, to the point where it's impossible to trawl through them and find the gold in the dross.

Then there's the untouchable goddess syndrome, perfectly ok guys hanging back because they figure they haven't got a chance in hell and shouldn't even try.

I know i'm hesitant to ask a woman out if she's way out of my league, i hate swiming with the sharks and there's always that little voice at the back of my mind saying "Get real!!" and i don't even have an inferiority complex to deal with. In that case i need to see some interest from her before i'll get out the harpoon gun.
Interesting reply since your no "hunch back of Notre Dame" perhaps the HUNK back, at least your picture shows a good looking man!
But I believe you are right about the "untouchable goddess syndrome". Alot of men just won't approach a good looking woman, thinking she is probably taken already.
Ouch! a harpoon gun!! That would hurt!!
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gothustartus wrote :
It can seriously hinder, an absolute stunner will always be flooded with far more attempts at contact, to the point where it's impossible to trawl through them and find the gold in the dross.

Then there's the untouchable goddess syndrome, perfectly ok guys hanging back because they figure they haven't got a chance in hell and shouldn't even try.

I know i'm hesitant to ask a woman out if she's way out of my league, i hate swiming with the sharks and there's always that little voice at the back of my mind saying "Get real!!" and i don't even have an inferiority complex to deal with. In that case i need to see some interest from her before i'll get out the harpoon gun.
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Don't really know since I am not a particularly good looking specimen.
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