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I don't see how being good looking would hinder you. You can choose who you want. You are afforded the luxury of being pickier. Plus, you don't have to worry about the people who think you are out of their league. After all, if they think you are out of their league, then they are right.
- August 4th, 2009, 12:09 pm
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Great question.Actually I agree with both of these posts, because it does answer the question. There is reverse prejudice, that is... "he / she is too good looking, so rather than get in line, I'll just move on"......... Sometimes someone is just naturally attractive and not conceited, which is often the presumption. There is also jealousy , with the "this comes easily to you, because you have an advantage" .
On the other hand, clearly we are attracted to what we are attracted to, and those who have that will have more people attracted to them.
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Helps. People are attracted to beauty.
.^.........??

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It can seriously hinder, an absolute stunner will always be flooded with far more attempts at contact, to the point where it's impossible to trawl through them and find the gold in the dross.
Then there's the untouchable goddess syndrome, perfectly ok guys hanging back because they figure they haven't got a chance in hell and shouldn't even try.
I know i'm hesitant to ask a woman out if she's way out of my league, i hate swiming with the sharks and there's always that little voice at the back of my mind saying "Get real!!" and i don't even have an inferiority complex to deal with. In that case i need to see some interest from her before i'll get out the harpoon gun.
- August 4th, 2009, 12:33 pm
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Ladyjuju wrote :
Interesting reply since your no "hunch back of Notre Dame" perhaps the HUNK back, at least your picture shows a good looking man!
But I believe you are right about the "untouchable goddess syndrome". Alot of men just won't approach a good looking woman, thinking she is probably taken already.
Ouch! a harpoon gun!! That would hurt!!
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Well, it's a good picture but i don't think i'm all that, and the harpoon gun was for the sharks
- August 4th, 2009, 12:35 pm
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Helps to a point. If you are attractive, then people will be naturally drawn to you. However, if you are extremely beautiful or amazingly handsome, then I've heard people complain that there are stereotypes and the insecurities of others to overcome.
Out of the mouths of babes.
- August 4th, 2009, 12:38 pm
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Helps to a point. If you are attractive, then people will be naturally drawn to you. However, if you are extremely beautiful or amazingly handsome, then I've heard people complain that there are stereotypes and the insecurities of others to overcome.
As far as dating goes this, and also people not approaching because they think they're out of a beautiful person's league, this could actually be helpful. If someone has stereotypes and insecurities....or is 'out of their league'....it's just as well that they don't approach. People generally want someone who is 'in their league' in one way or another.
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I think the real question is who defines "good looking." There is no objective measure of attractiveness.
Look at actors and actresses. Some of them would look bizarre if seen from another decade. Watch the original Mummy movie. The leading lady in that film is not what most would want today.
And to the conceited part, perhaps you are the only one who considers you good looking!
I think people, definitely men, are drawn to specific types. They may notice beauty in general, but they are only interested in their specific flavor.
- August 4th, 2009, 12:56 pm
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jayjay wrote :
As far as dating goes this, and also people not approaching because they think they're out of a beautiful person's league, this could actually be helpful. If someone has stereotypes and insecurities....or is 'out of their league'....it's just as well that they don't approach. People generally want someone who is 'in their league' in one way or another.
I suppose you are right, but wouldn't that mentality view the individual as an object instead of a person? (I'm really not trying to be a pain here, really I'm not ). I don't know, I just think it could be an opportunity to miss out on a great person because of some preconceived notion about the person or about one's own ideas about him/herself. However, if those insecurities stretch into every aspect of his/her life, then yes, I suppose it could be a blessing.

Another thought...looks don't last forever (unless, of course, you're a fan of plastic surgery and botox, but even then...eek!). One of my favorite lines is looks fade, and you'd better have something to back it up or you're sunk.

I think I'm done rambling for now....
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Ladyjuju wrote :
Here's the question that is up for debate. Being a good looking woman or man, do you think this helps or hinders your chances of finding matches on EH.
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I hate to say this, but I don't think most of you are actually answering the original question. It was about the chances of "Finding Matches ON EH". Yes, no matter how attractive the woman is, if I liked her profile, I would start GC. So, for me I would say it helps. What's the worst that could happen?
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I suppose you are right, but wouldn't that mentality view the individual as an object instead of a person?
You mean....viewing....women....as people?? Does... not... compute.
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You mean....viewing....women....as people?? Does... not... compute.
Try harder.
- August 4th, 2009, 01:17 pm
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