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jayjay wrote :
Helps. People are attracted to beauty.
Beauty is ONLY skin deep. I look for the "inner beauty" of a person. Sure good looks are great, but so superficial.
- September 12th, 2009, 10:47 am
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I honeslty wouldn't know the answer to that question, however, Im very inclined to say that being attractive helps with the dating pool. No one initiates a conversation with someone they don't think is attractive.
- September 12th, 2009, 02:54 pm
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I can understand that a really good looking person will get more response than they actually need but if aren't attractive few if any will be willing to put themselves in the "responding" mode!
- September 12th, 2009, 03:43 pm
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i dont looks are everything i mean somewhat, but looks can change and the heart never will. although i have been on this site and have not met anyone i feel like i will never meet someone but i dont think its because of my looks i think it will happen when its time
- September 13th, 2009, 07:45 am
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Its good and its bad....depending on life experience as well. Some men feel confident enough to go for what they want...and others just don't try and like someone said they really don't think they have a chance. If you don't go for it you will never know. That's what we are all here for to find someone and take a chance. For all the guys who think they don't have a chance....your wrong! Get up the nerve and talk to her and don't be afraid to take risks. Also there's the misconception that if the person is so good looking why are they on EH...just like everyone else we have bad experiences in relationships as well and when it all comes down to it, it's all about personality,needs and wants in the end. We are just as scared of people only going after us for our looks and not even interested in who we are as a person. It comes full circle in the end. Good Luck in Life and Love.
- September 14th, 2009, 10:38 am
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bigfincat wrote :
I still can be amazed by some of things that I hear on these boards.

I cannot believe that it is common at all for anyone to say "you're so beautiful, why are you with me?".

That blows my mind. I was not always terribly secure but those thoughts NEVER would come into my mind.

And they not only thought them... but they said them out loud. Wow.
Well, I've had it happen 3 times to me. The last time I was with the guy for 3 years and living with him for cripes sake. In fact he was the only man I ever chose tp live with. I was totally committed to him and choose him to be the one but it's like they say "you can drag a horse to water but you cant make them drink"
- September 22nd, 2009, 03:25 am
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whiskeyslick wrote :
Average looking guys also believe you have way more options then they do and are insecure for that reason as well. They believe if one little thing goes wrong, with all the attention you get, you would drop them like a rock.
Except that if I can have anyone else and I CHOOSE you, I would think that's a heck of an ego boast, no? Am I missing something? I broke up with a model to be with my last boyfriend who was an average guy. After 3 years of total commitment and sharing a home he pulled that insecure crap. I don't get it but I'm not investing any energy in figuring it out either.
- September 22nd, 2009, 03:32 am
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If you think it's hindering, then go up to people you're interested in instead. Though that can be somewhat intimidating, it also provides a level of confidence, as you were also interested.
- September 22nd, 2009, 05:19 am
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Possibly the stupidest question ever posed on this site.
- September 22nd, 2009, 05:22 pm
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Being good looking has nothing to with it, it is really what we have in side of us- "
You either take that person for who they are-not what they are.. " Looks " don't fit my " " Criteria "

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I completely disagree.... Looks matter only initially. I can tell you that I have had a few matches e-mailed to me who were both obese and had unattractive faces. It would not matter how well I got to know these guys "from the inside" - the bottom line is that these men would only be friendship material. Period. Of course, what is attractive to one is very subjective - the key is that the man has to be attractive to me and there has to be chemistry. I don't care whether the rest of the world finds him attractive - just as long as I do
- October 18th, 2009, 09:30 pm
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