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JADS402 is offline JADS402 Post #1  August 3,2009, 8:22pm
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So there's someone that I like alot.
we've been to 2 concerts over the past few
months, one of which was with her sister.
so not a date...but I've gotten to know her ....

and now I dont know how to ask her...so she
doesnt think its just to hang out as friends...

and hate to admit it at my age but I've never asked
anyone out really...do's and don'ts? I've been
scouring the internet trying to figure it out.

thanks for all your help.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #2  August 3,2009, 8:26pm
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There is only one answer to your question, get over whatever fears you have, call her up, tell you you think she is (insert your own adjective) and ask her if she wants to go out to dinner with you sometime.

After the last girl flat out turned me down, I have actually gotten better at this. It is hard in the beginning because of the fear of rejection, it will either work out or it won't.

Good luck!
 
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Hmmm....possibly a non-activity date. An activity date (like the concerts) could be seen as just to hang out, wherease something like just going to dinner, or maybe someplace you could dance as well, would probably be understand as being a real 'date'.

If you do opt for an activity date....at least make sure you do something while on the date like take her hand or put your arm around her so she gets the idea that you're interested in her romantically.
 
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and to complicate matters....she's
halfway my coworker...halfway
meaning the company we work
for split and we both work for
diffrent companies now. but she
still does admin work for our company
2 days a week....does this even matter?
 
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stevex wrote :
There is only one answer to your question, get over whatever fears you have, call her up, tell you you think she is (insert your own adjective) and ask her if she wants to go out to dinner with you sometime.

After the last girl flat out turned me down, I have actually gotten better at this. It is hard in the beginning because of the fear of rejection, it will either work out or it won't.

Good luck!

Great advice! First time of rejection is hard....gets better over time. Of course.. if it happens.

And .... BE YOURSELF.... relax will yea?!
 
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JADS402 wrote :
and to complicate matters....she's
halfway my coworker...halfway
meaning the company we work
for split and we both work for
diffrent companies now. but she
still does admin work for our company
2 days a week....does this even matter?

Heck no.........
 
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JADS402 wrote :
and to complicate matters....she's
halfway my coworker...halfway
meaning the company we work
for split and we both work for
diffrent companies now. but she
still does admin work for our company
2 days a week....does this even matter?
I wouldn't let this be a barrier...although this may be a "no-no" for some.

The longest relationship I've ever had was with someone I worked with...although we didn't directly work together the entire time.
 
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I don't see it as an issue if she was the human resource manager or something it might be different. I would ask her out soon officially and leave the "hanging out" stage asap. Just ask her to something basic like dinner you already know her so it would be a fine first date.
 
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Benevolence32 wrote :
I don't see it as an issue if she was the human resource manager or something it might be different. I would ask her out soon officially and leave the "hanging out" stage asap. Just ask her to something basic like dinner you already know her so it would be a fine first date.
Agreeed, once in the friend zone you will be hard pressed to get out of it.
 
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When my ex first asked me out and I had no clue he meant a date. He figured that out from my response and just said, "Liz, I am asking you out on a date." That worked for me.

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