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Shelby is offline Shelby Post #21  August 4,2009, 5:33am
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You should strike up a conversation with the older guy to get to her, because he is her anchor in this social group. If you can warm up to him, he will give you street cred with her. Establish the friendship with him first. (And don't confess your attraction for her to him. You don't know how he feels about her, even if he's much older -- he might feel territorial about her.)

So when you walk up to him while she's there, your intent is to say hi to him. She will appear to be of secondary interest and just stand there. Chat with him for a minute, then ask to be introduced, or just say hi to her, introduce yourself and start chatting about the group, yourself, etc. Tell her you'd like to continue the conversation and ask for her phone number or e-mail address.

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MCMLXXII wrote :
Hi MarkIn: This older gentleman poses no threat, so it's easy to be his crony. However, what's preventing you from walking up to her and saying "Hello?" Surely, there's a lapse - even a brief one - when they're not together.

Obviously, you're attracted to her since you've created two threads. Just walk up to her and introduce yourself. She'll be flattered.
Either that or she will go running, screaming from the room.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Either that or she will go running, screaming from the room.
I'm more worried about her yelling out "Hey everybody! Guess what Mark just did? Can you believe it? Ha ha ha ha ha"

Seriously, I'm just getting the vibe that the time isn't right (bad timing right now because of something she is going through). I don't want to blow it by asking her out at the wrong time.

I like the suggestion that several of you have given of getting to know the older guy better. He seems like a pretty fun guy to get to know, and he is well liked by others in the group. I can always use more friends.
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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MarkInAustin wrote :
I'm more worried about her yelling out "Hey everybody! Guess what Mark just did? Can you believe it? Ha ha ha ha ha"

Seriously, I'm just getting the vibe that the time isn't right (bad timing right now because of something she is going through). I don't want to blow it by asking her out at the wrong time.

I like the suggestion that several of you have given of getting to know the older guy better. He seems like a pretty fun guy to get to know, and he is well liked by others in the group. I can always use more friends.
Also, remember....don't get fixated on this one woman. Even if you ask her out and she goes out with you....the chances are pretty slim that she'll be 'the one'. Keep your powder dry and your....well, keep looking.
 
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But man up and take that walk towards her. I don't care what anybody says, it is human nature for the man to be the pursuer- pursue!
If hunting were like dating, I would be a vegetarian!
 
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