islandrain80 is offline islandrain80 Post #1  August 3,2009, 9:43am
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If a guy wants you go meet his daughter (i.e a guy I'm interested in vice versa he says...had asked me twice to go w/him to take his daughter to the grandma's...and also to pick her up...I couldn't go cause of work) is that a pretty good sign he's into you?
 
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It really depends on the guy. I've noticed that men are less protective of their children that way and are much more likely to introduce you earlier rather than later, however that does not necessarily mean he is highly serious about you. He may be and he may not be - only he knows. In other words I would refrain from reading too much into this.
 
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I was forced into the situation of introducing my children to my girlfriend earlier than I would have liked. My ex wife had decided she was moving to the west coast in a week or two so I wanted to spend as much time with them as possible. My gf and I took the kids on a picnic at a local park. The kids seemed to really enjoy themselves. My daughter who was not quite 3 yrs old hit it off with my gf. I agree do not read too much into this. Good luck
 
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It can be, stress on the can here. Hopefully it means that he thinks you're going to be around long enough to need to get to know her or he wants to see how well she'll react to you.

Depending on the age of a child the timing of when people get to meet them can be a little awkward. I don't indroduce dates to my son when i have him here because i decided that that part of my life is only for people i'm actually going somewhere with and so isn't for the earlier seeing-where-it-goes stages of dating.

I was dating one woman who was very pushy about trying to plan family type activities and holidays even though i didn't think the relationship was at that stage yet. It's very uncomfortable and puts a lot of strain on things.
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Agree that it may not be a sign of anything, regarding his feelings for you. Maybe you are just filling a void in the routine he had with his ex... Watch out for that. Look for other signs of his wanting a relationship with you besides tagging along to pick up the daughter, a babysitter could do that.
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If a guy wants you go meet his daughter (i.e a guy I'm interested in vice versa he says...had asked me twice to go w/him to take his daughter to the grandma's...and also to pick her up...I couldn't go cause of work) is that a pretty good sign he's into you?
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
Agree that it may not be a sign of anything, regarding his feelings for you. Maybe you are just filling a void in the routine he had with his ex... Watch out for that. Look for other signs of his wanting a relationship with you besides tagging along to pick up the daughter, a babysitter could do that.
Well from what I've learned about his ex, I don't think he's searching to fill the routine they had (felonies and drugs on her part). But as far as signs for wanting a relationship...I'm clueless to those signs.
 
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I can only speak for myself as a parent I do NOT allow anyone to meet my son unless I know that the relationship is going to be a serious long term relationship. I have known other parents who do not share this way of thinking.
I also agree it would depend on the age of the child, very young children will not know what the difference is compared to a child who is in the grade school ages.

I would not give it much weight.
 
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As far as signs go...time will reveal all things.
 
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ehh, how old is she? She may not like you intruding on her time with her father.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
It really depends on the guy. I've noticed that men are less protective of their children that way and are much more likely to introduce you earlier rather than later, however that does not necessarily mean he is highly serious about you. He may be and he may not be - only he knows. In other words I would refrain from reading too much into this.
I completely agree with DancingFool! It does depend on the guy, but I've had guys want me to meet their kids early on (like on the second date!) and I've declined. Then I had one guy who told me up front that we would have to be dating a MINIMUM of 3 months before he'd consider letting me meet his daughter.

I don't think kids should be involved at all until the adults have established they are exclusive and going to be a couple for the foreseeable future. In seven+ years of dating my kids have only met 3 guys I've dated, and each of those guys was around for more than a year.
 
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