1st meet up/She'd lied about her age but explained why


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SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #1  August 3,2009, 8:33am
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This was yesterday, a first date online match meeting after about a casual exchange of occasional emails lasting a month.


I am 61 and her profile said she was that age also. A leetle bit of a long distance (120 miles) so I suggested we split the diference, and meet halfway, at a specific place (Dragonfly Sushi in a historic downtown area we knew.)

I was astonished: She looked really "hot" and was in up to the minute style and her story was that she had been a runway model and actress in addition to her basic career.

We are both SF expats, having a LOT of trouble adjsuting to mountain living with an excess of rednecks. She is a therapist (retired from practice).


But right away, she admitted she had lied about her age. It is really 66, and she said that she looks and feels SO much younger than that, that she only got replies from (to her) unacceptably OLD men in late 60s to late 70s that drove her nuts because they came across as really older in looks and more importantly, how very old they thought, and acted!

(She works out at the gym, rides bicycles and is very active and youthful. She honestly looked to me about 50 years old and very very attractive, really cute. And educated too, a PhD from UC Berkeley...had lived an interesting full life also.)

She said she always 'fesses up on the first date about her true age and the reason why she lied.

Of course, starting out with a lie is not so good, and I *did* notice that she is still out there looking, so I am undecided whether that approach, used consistently, is a good one; I always say the truth, and am regularly discarded for my "old" age, too.
Usually it doesn't bother me at all though, 'cause I know who and what I am..

~~~~~

So, once past that, we had a great time. There was mutual attraction, on many levels, so we hung out and explored the historic town, drank lattes and gabbed for about 3 hours.

It became eventually clear that this woman had enjoyed a life in the highest society reaches of San Francisco and had the same love of the city as I did, a common ground. But she travelled in the upper class circles of that cityscape, it was clear.


She said that nonetheless, she was continually contacted by Harley Davidson motorcycle riders with tattoos that wanted to meet her, and that life is utterly foreign (and rather repulsive - she had never been on a motorcycle) to her.


Finally it was time to go. I told her flat out that she passed my every litmus test for dating and I would enjoy seeing her again. She then, said the same.


This was the oldest person I have ever dated. Well, ok, met. But I think she may have been right: Men generally would not think that someone as old as 66 could be totally hot, gorgeous, and engaging, and single.....and looking.


Yes I kissed her. She didn't mind it at all, and seemed ready.


I guess age is more a state of mind; Since last year when I decided to date again, my age range of dates has been 43-65 and most of them I *REALLY* enjoyed...
 
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A lot of women are very self-conscious about their age and don't want everyone to know how old they are (me included). So long as you like the way she looks and enjoy her company, why do you care about how old she says she is? Age is only a number anyway.

So, I say . . . "go for it". Live your life and enjoy the moment! You are not getting any younger, you know.
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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6dle899 wrote :
This was yesterday, a first date online match meeting after about a casual exchange of occasional emails lasting a month.


I am 61 and her profile said she was that age also. A leetle bit of a long distance (120 miles) so I suggested we split the diference, and meet halfway, at a specific place (Dragonfly Sushi in a historic downtown area we knew.)

I was astonished: She looked really "hot" and was in up to the minute style and her story was that she had been a runway model and actress in addition to her basic career.

We are both SF expats, having a LOT of trouble adjsuting to mountain living with an excess of rednecks. She is a therapist (retired from practice).


But right away, she admitted she had lied about her age. It is really 66, and she said that she looks and feels SO much younger than that, that she only got replies from (to her) unacceptably OLD men in late 60s to late 70s that drove her nuts because they came across as really older in looks and more importantly, how very old they thought, and acted!

(She works out at the gym, rides bicycles and is very active and youthful. She honestly looked to me about 50 years old and very very attractive, really cute. And educated too, a PhD from UC Berkeley...had lived an interesting full life also.)

She said she always 'fesses up on the first date about her true age and the reason why she lied.

Of course, starting out with a lie is not so good, and I *did* notice that she is still out there looking, so I am undecided whether that approach, used consistently, is a good one; I always say the truth, and am regularly discarded for my "old" age, too.
Usually it doesn't bother me at all though, 'cause I know who and what I am..

~~~~~

So, once past that, we had a great time. There was mutual attraction, on many levels, so we hung out and explored the historic town, drank lattes and gabbed for about 3 hours.

It became eventually clear that this woman had enjoyed a life in the highest society reaches of San Francisco and had the same love of the city as I did, a common ground. But she travelled in the upper class circles of that cityscape, it was clear.


She said that nonetheless, she was continually contacted by Harley Davidson motorcycle riders with tattoos that wanted to meet her, and that life is utterly foreign (and rather repulsive - she had never been on a motorcycle) to her.


Finally it was time to go. I told her flat out that she passed my every litmus test for dating and I would enjoy seeing her again. She then, said the same.


This was the oldest person I have ever dated. Well, ok, met. But I think she may have been right: Men generally would not think that someone as old as 66 could be totally hot, gorgeous, and engaging, and single.....and looking.


Yes I kissed her. She didn't mind it at all, and seemed ready.


I guess age is more a state of mind; Since last year when I decided to date again, my age range of dates has been 43-65 and most of them I *REALLY* enjoyed...
I think I'm in a similar situation as her...in that IRL women who are much younger than me don't consider me too old to date. However, with online dating this seems much more of an issue. Maybe it's that one of the first things seen is the age number.

I'm not one of those people who think anytime someone 'lies' about something like this on their profile that you should automatically ditch them. I'd deal with something like this on a case-by-case basis. However, while it would benefit me from lieing about my age on my profile I won't do it. I just accept the fact that with online dating I'll be restricted to a narrowing age range of women who will date me than IRL.

"Yes I kissed her. She didn't mind it at all..."

Yes, if they don't vomit when you kiss them that's always a good sign. lol
 
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To me lying about anything is a big no, no.

If she lied about her age just to get a date what else has she lied about or will she lie about in the future?
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
To me lying about anything is a big no, no.

If she lied about her age just to get a date what else has she lied about or will she lie about in the future?
That he's good in bed??
 
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jayjay wrote :
"Yes I kissed her. She didn't mind it at all..."

Yes, if they don't vomit when you kiss them that's always a good sign. lol
What!!!??? Did that ever actually happen to you? How did it make you feel?
 
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AsianFusion wrote :
You are not getting any younger, you know.

Gee thanks. I really NEEDED to hear that.


LOLZ
 
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Gee thanks. I really NEEDED to hear that.


LOLZ
Is LOLZ dozing off while you're laughing? lolzzzzzzzzz
 
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jayjay wrote :
That he's good in bed??

"Women fake orgasms.

Men fake whole relationships"

~~Sharon Stone.
 
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There is an exception to every rule and this seems to be one of those exceptions. If you like her, date her and have fun.
 
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