cp30 is offline cp30 Post #1  August 2,2009, 2:35pm

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I feel like I am sitting on a gold mine.....the book I could write about my internet dating stories....the freaks, the geeks, the greats, the few that worked out pretty well and ended sadly...the really bad profiles, and worse, the emails they wrote me.

I think I need a break right now and am going to wrap things up on match (eh just expired) by telling the most recent guy I am not up for meeting (still figuring that one out); replying to the 6th email I have gotten from a man who I have never written back to. He wants me bad. We have never spoken. He is now asking what he has done wrong and I'm thinking just to stop the madness I will tell him what he has done wrong...(I would have replied after the first email, but before I could I got a second, and a third, and I knew what he had on his salad the day before and the names of all of his friends, oh and that I am the reason he joined, okay I started to get freaked out and irritated and think maybe silence is the best way out of this one). Today....I got an email I wish I could reprint...is it against the rules?

This weirdo emailed me about 2 pages about the woman he used to love...I mean L-O-V-E. He lives in California and they had very special times in my town in Texas. I mean I am at the end of the first page he wrote by now and all I know is how deeply he loved her. The end of the note describes how he would like me to meet him next weekend in my town and help him put his memories to rest by visiting with him places they used to go together....he would be a gentleman, he just needs a friend to be there. He would pick me up and bring me home before dark, and in the night he would go to the place where they used to watch the stars together (CREEPY)

Before I had a chance to jump at this oppportunity, he emailed me again and said "forget the last email, I need to do this on my own"

WHAT!?

I am pretty sure this is my signal to call it quits for awhile. Though I am 32 and a half next month, I know I know my clock is ticking. But I am feeling fatigued. I have another guy that keeps emailing me that he would like to meet up (when he is in my town) but he never developed any type of rapport with me. He seems like a nice guy, but I feel like a side dish to his excursions to my town. I have not met him yet and think its time to send him an email too....that says, thanks but no thanks.

I have a few others too, but no one I really see myself with at this point.

I know that no one is perfect. But I might be at my limit of ridiculous internet behaviors. I have to say my experience on eharmony was a lot better....it got to the point I just wasn't getting any matches (until I cancelled that is... I hate to say but it sure seemed that way) in a reasonable distance.

so, when did you know it was time to quit or take a break, maybe even a little break? Or, any stories that can top mine today? That was just a sample of course....I'd love to hear the good the bad and the ugly.
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  August 2,2009, 2:41pm
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Well, they don't call them highly-compatible matches for nothing.

There's even a patent, I think.
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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CP....do you really not get any matches (on any site) from guys that are normal, even if they're not quite your type?
 
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I think that when you get to the point of complete and total frustration, it may be time to take a break. The reason being, if you are completely frustrated, the right guy could come along and you might not even see him just due to the frustration being felt with the entire process. Bear in mind, though, that I'm not saying that is where you are; only you can answer that yourself.

I will say, though, that I would never advocate quitting all together. Granted, I've had my share of horror stories up to now, and I think we all have some of those under our belts. I'm 39 and I still haven't quit, though I have taken my breaks now and then, which I think is normal and healthy if it's what you need to do. It sounds like your life is heading in the right direction based on other posts of yours that I have read, and I've no doubt you will find the right one for you. It does take time to find that one, breaks included. Again, you must make the decision that is best for you overall.

I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make.
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Wow. I guess you should call it quits then. Sounds like someone has a big case of projected love on you!

Have you got some sort of creepo magnet stuck in your you-who? ;p

I don't get weird ones like that at all. About the worst I get is the teeth pullers.

Talking to them is like pulling teeth because they are so closed lipped about things. That's no fun.

Maybe you'd have better luck in a grocery store or at the mall?

Either that or take a couple ugly photos and use those on your profile instead ;p
 
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jayjay wrote :
CP....do you really not get any matches (on any site) from guys that are normal, even if they're not quite your type?
I have and I do....this last month or two has been weird, but it could be that I'm just pointing out the weirdos, because all the normal guys have blended into one guy to me at this point, which is also part of my fatigue. I think my experience has made me a lot harder to impress, which is why I think I need to step back for a moment....gotta clear the filter or something!
 
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I think that when you get to the point of complete and total frustration, it may be time to take a break. The reason being, if you are completely frustrated, the right guy could come along and you might not even see him just due to the frustration being felt with the entire process. Bear in mind, though, that I'm not saying that is where you are; only you can answer that yourself.

I will say, though, that I would never advocate quitting all together. Granted, I've had my share of horror stories up to now, and I think we all have some of those under our belts. I'm 39 and I still haven't quit, though I have taken my breaks now and then, which I think is normal and healthy if it's what you need to do. It sounds like your life is heading in the right direction based on other posts of yours that I have read, and I've no doubt you will find the right one for you. It does take time to find that one, breaks included. Again, you must make the decision that is best for you overall.

I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make.
yeah....I feel the same way. I don't want to give up. I mean, I don't want to limit my options... I do want to give up! lol.

Yeah, I think it is time for a break, even if it is just a week or so.

I think at the moment I just got uncomfortable with having such personal information about me online for anyone to see. I've always had that issue with match but figure its worth the risk. At the moment, I am feeling more like a weirdo magnet.
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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cp30 wrote :
yeah....I feel the same way. I don't want to give up. I mean, I don't want to limit my options... I do want to give up! lol.

Yeah, I think it is time for a break, even if it is just a week or so.

I think at the moment I just got uncomfortable with having such personal information about me online for anyone to see. I've always had that issue with match but figure its worth the risk. At the moment, I am feeling more like a weirdo magnet.
It certainly sounds like you have some dating 'war stories'. Taking a break could be a great idea.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Well, they don't call them highly-compatible matches for nothing.

There's even a patent, I think.
Uh, I think she said these guys are from Match not eHarmony
 
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jayjay wrote :
It certainly sounds like you have some dating 'war stories'. Taking a break could be a great idea.
yeah....well....here is an example of "normal" if I met this guy at a bar or on the street I might like him! But online....this is his headline "no strings attached, I am looking to meet a nice woman who has her head screwed on straight and knows what she wants out of life."

okay....he has nice photos, overall an okay profile, except that it focuses more on what he is looking for than who he is. He is probably a decent person capable of a relationship.

I'm just...so put off by the headline (it reeks of baggage) and the way his profile reads sounds like he is more interested in what someone has to offer him.

I realize a lot of men are just not the best writers in the world and don't express themselves that well on paper. But...it can be hard to know who to take a chance with. I've been pretty on target with my gut feelings and assessments about who I will like in person based on profiles and communications ahead of time.

I'm sure if I took more chances to meet more people I'd find someone. I'ts just that I typically get enough really good profiles/emails/possibilities to date that I don't have to really pay attention the lacklusters I noted above.

I guess maybe I should give more guys a chance that seem "okay" but it also leads to more disillusionment when things don't work out.

come on people, I know you like my stories but I am a woman not a dating robot! I have to be somewhat choosy you know!

I do realize though at this particular point in time, I may be being a tad too picky, and its probably time to take a break and think about my career possibilities and make sure I am where I want to be for now, then dating might become easy again. Right now, I have a little more at stake with possible relocations, so its a good time for a break I guess. Though.....lonley. Ah, more delayed gratification.
 
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