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Reading "E-Harmony’s” advice board has had me wondering how we define a "date". The Macquarie dictionary offers “Colloquia. An appointment for a social activity. A person with whom one has a social appointment, and usually some romantic interest.” I suppose amorous intentions? Circumstances of two folk together of reciprocating sexual interest (male/female, same sex). A mutual agreement to meet or perhaps happenstance? One Advice board post says “Casually dating someone is for people to see if they’re connected, share common interests and get along…”

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was about to toss something off the cuff this way...and then stopped.

now off to cogitate, and will get back to you.

can't wait to see what the lawyers come up with.
 
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all i know is that my british acquaintances never allow that the british date.

my definition: a date is when two people go out alone or attend a group outing as a pair. and it's a pairing if it looks like that to strangers.
 
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All that to define one little 4-letter word?

Personally, I have no idea, and I don't lose any sleep over it either. I don't like "first dates" because I don't consider them to be "dates". I also don't like the concept of "dating" in general because I only "date" exclusively.

To be honest, until I arrived on planet eHA, I don't ever remember myself saying that I was "dating" someone. I would usually refer to it as "meeting" someone, "getting to know" someone, or "seeing" someone. Then it would either turn into a more serious "relationship", or not.

All I know for sure is that a real "date" is something I always have to look up in the calendar, so as not to miss an appointment, because I can never remember what day or date it is on the Moon.

And planet eHA with its many different time zones only confuses me further!
 
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Fleuellen wrote :
Reading "E-Harmony’s” advice board has had me wondering how we define a "date". The Macquarie dictionary offers “Colloquia."

Yeah, I don't know if I'd find Caligula as a dating role model. The whole inappropriate family relations, sociopath tendencies and God-like behavior might be too taboo.
 
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KungFuFtr wrote :

Yeah, I don't know if I'd find Caligula as a dating role model. The whole inappropriate family relations, sociopath tendencies and God-like behavior might be too taboo.

You are undeniably, incredibly and inspirationally insane!
 
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Hmm … not so easy to answer.
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What you wrote underlined in red is a date. What's the question? You meet a woman you find interesting, you ask her out to go do something. Period. Colloquia in the english dictionary is defined as:
  1. An informal meeting for the exchange of views.
  2. An academic seminar on a broad field of study, usually led by a different lecturer at each meeting.
Most people would not consider the above a date , but a campus coffee house event, and this seems to be your debate here?
If you want to sit around places checking out the scenery , then approach them for a dutch treat, I'd say that's a pick up.
Whether it's over intellectualized or not, a pick-up is a pick-up
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Reading "E-Harmony’s” advice board has had me wondering how we define a "date". The Macquarie dictionary offers “Colloquia. An appointment for a social activity. A person with whom one has a social appointment, and usually some romantic interest.” I suppose amorous intentions? Circumstances of two folk together of reciprocating sexual interest (male/female, same sex). A mutual agreement to meet or perhaps happenstance? One Advice board post says “Casually dating someone is for people to see if they’re connected, share common interests and get along…”
Only the other night I spent a pleasant few hours chatting with a delightful woman at charming pub with open fire place. We done this enough times that we haggled over whose turn it was to buy supper. Rather "you brought me dinner last time, it's my turn." We'd not really planned to meet up. Rather been cycling with a bike club; after which we'd adjourned to a pub; sometimes others joined us, but we were inevitable last to leave. But a date?
My sometimes step-daughter (for want of a better term for daughter of former partner) regularly goes out with groups of friends; boys and girls; concerts, parties and even a picnic on a curriculum day. This would seem to fun without undue expectations. I suppose there may be some pairing off. I hadn't asked. My son heads off to metal gigs with mates or meets various girls for coffee a local shopping Mall. My other son seems to spend time with sisters or daughters of his cricket mates. And if I'm going somewhere; art show, footy, band, or charity fund raiser, I'll may ask someone particular to join me. I'm going anyway. I suppose this might be a date
 In my brief time in army, we'd go home with whoever we managed to meet at the disco (this was early 80s). Or more correctly the girl friends of whomever my more charming mate had steered us towards.
When I younger and working in the city I use to invite women to meet for lunch; Nonchalant sort of affair. I avoid “dinner dates;” too complicated; what sort of cuisine, what if I use the cutlery the wrong way, who pays, what do you do afterward. I reserve such events for those I know well, partners, wives and take them to a renowned establishment, or make a picnic pack, concert in another city, or a country retreat with a log fire place. I don’t think you call going out with ones wife a date. But maybe we should.
 I reflected on my first meeting with late wife. I had noticed a curly haired young woman with delightful breasts across the room in an English night class. We regularly chatted between classes, often being late back. I'd suggested meeting to study. It just turned out that not a lot of study got done. But had we actually dated?
I long worked in child welfare which is female dominated. I've made some good female "mates" over the years. There has been skiffing off for coffee, seeing a movie, dinner, listening to respective tales of wow or joy about relationships, children and death. And there even occasional hanky panky or even sharing beds with or without sex, Dating
 Finally I recall a delightful day while traveling through New Zealand a few years ago. I'd been escaping my children. On a ferry I'd notice this attractive woman with long flaming red hair so sidled up beside her. She was from a America who worked in Kazakhstan! (she seemed impressed I knew where it was – this was before 7/11) actually We spent the rest of the day together as the ferry docked. Lunch at a cafe, walk around the wharf, checking out the neat maritime museum, trading tales of childhood, careers and odd experiences. And later a sweet kiss as we headed off to catch our respective train and bus in different directions. Was this a date? Whatever you'd call it I'd greatly enjoyed that day
 So what is a date? Thoughts?
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Now you are all breaking my heart and forcing me to leave - I can't take this any more...
 
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