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Well, there is this girl that im really interested in, we met at college orientation and kinda talked after that, had the first date and it went great. In fact, without me asking her if she had a good time, she outright said "I had a really, good time". After that we talked, but not a whole lot because we both work a fairly good amount. Were going on a second date to a baseball game (shes awesome ). What i'm asking here is, based on what you know if the second date goes just as well or better than # 1, is it too early to ask the girl out?
 
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Well, there is this girl that im really interested in, we met at college orientation and kinda talked after that, had the first date and it went great. In fact, without me asking her if she had a good time, she outright said "I had a really, good time". After that we talked, but not a whole lot because we both work a fairly good amount. Were going on a second date to a baseball game (shes awesome ). What i'm asking here is, based on what you know if the second date goes just as well or better than # 1, is it too early to ask the girl out?
I don't think I really understand your question here--could you ask it another way or word it more clearly, because it seems to me that you've asked her out twice now (date #1 and date #2, unless she did the asking)...
 
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lol, my mistake, i meant like we are going "On a date" but we are not "together", from what you know is it too early to ask to be "Together" on the second date? i know it sounds Juvenile but, this is the first REAL time getting involved with dating lol
 
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lol, my mistake, i meant like we are going "On a date" but we are not "together", from what you know is it too early to ask to be "Together" on the second date? i know it sounds Juvenile but, this is the first REAL time getting involved with dating lol




If by "together", you mean an "exclusive" relationship where neither sees anybody else, yes, it probably is too soon for that. It's best to let these things unfold in a more natural manner, and not to jump the gun.

Or did you mean to have sex "together"? It's probably too soon for that, as well!
 
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I am just as confused as brneyedangle.

Are you saying that you are going to a baseball game and she is going to a baseball game and you just may meet up at the game and maybe you would sit together?

Uh, I have an idea, why don't you just ask her if she would like to go to this baseball game with you. Who knows maybe after the game you could share a pizza and discuss the game.

Sounds like a fun time could be had by all.
 
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john8andy knows what im asking, im just wondering if im jumping the gun lol
 
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lol, my mistake, i meant like we are going "On a date" but we are not "together", from what you know is it too early to ask to be "Together" on the second date? i know it sounds Juvenile but, this is the first REAL time getting involved with dating lol




If by "together", you mean an "exclusive" relationship where neither sees anybody else, yes, it probably is too soon for that. It's best to let these things unfold in a more natural manner, and not to jump the gun.

Or did you mean to have sex "together"? It's probably too soon for that, as well!
It sure is tough to try and figure out teen speak at our advanced age, isn't it?
 
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I think it is too soon but then again for you and her it might not be. I would personally not want someone to ask me that on the second date. Thats just me though.
 
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john8andy knows what im asking, im just wondering if im jumping the gun lol

[quote=Gr8Guyn2008;695550][quote=j0hn8andy;695537]
It sure is tough to try and figure out teen speak at our advanced age, isn't it?


Since I answered two different questions, I'm forced to admit I still don't know what he was asking, but I'm sure glad I gave the correct answer! (and at my advanced age, too, will wonders never cease!)
 
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BRums wrote :
lol, my mistake, i meant like we are going "On a date" but we are not "together", from what you know is it too early to ask to be "Together" on the second date? i know it sounds Juvenile but, this is the first REAL time getting involved with dating lol
It's a good question, not a juvenile one. The questions that are bad are the ones that go unasked when you really need to know an answer.

Personally, I think it's too soon for exclusivity. I think it takes more time to really get to know a person and to know if that person is the one you want to have that kind of a relationship with. I'd be uncomfortable having that conversation after the second date. I know you are eager, but I would give it a bit more time before you jump to that conversation.

Best of luck to you!
 
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