What Deserves a Second Chance?

What Deserves a Second Chance?

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gothustartus is offline gothustartus Post #21  August 2,2009, 8:05am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Are you saying that being an idiot is not a valid cause/reason for acting like an idiot, or exhibiting symptomatic behaviors of clinically diagnosed idiocy? And how do you define an idiot?

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I'm saying that sometimes people act the way they act with no deep hidden meanings or causes behind it, they just do what they want because the rest of the world exixts to service them.
 
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6dle899 wrote :
By some chance are you a psychiatrist?

They talk like that.
No, but I believe that I'm in great need of one!

Right about now will be sufficient.
 
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gothustartus wrote :
I'm saying that sometimes people act the way they act with no deep hidden meanings or causes behind it, they just do what they want because the rest of the world exixts to service them.

I have not decided whether I can agree with that yet.

But if you continue like this, you will have to find the guy in that avatar and introduce him to me - that smile is beginning to grow on me.

Do you think there is a hidden meaning or a cause behind it?
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
I have not decided whether I can agree with that yet.

But if you continue like this, you will have to find the guy in that avatar and introduce him to me - that smile is beginning to grow on me.

Do you think there is a hidden meaning or a cause behind it?
Yes, the photographer caught him by surprise before he could pull a face.
 
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If a guy tells you that he closed his eharmony account, but his profile is still in my "closed" matches, is he lying?
 
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gothustartus wrote :
I'm saying that sometimes people act the way they act with no deep hidden meanings or causes behind it, they just do what they want because the rest of the world exixts to service them.
So... you've met my ex-husband then?
 
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sunrose wrote :
If a guy tells you that he closed his eharmony account, but his profile is still in my "closed" matches, is he lying?
Check your closed message. If his profile is no longer available it will route you to a page that says so.
 
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To answer the OP's question NO!!! Dump him, get rid of him, point a shotgun at him and chase him off. No means no, and a cheater is saying no to you by cheating on you. No second chances, not on this. There is no way to truly recover from it

As to later posts concerning psychology. Why are you making or accepting excuses? How about a deep meaning or reason of "I can get away with it"?? When you excuse it they are getting away with it. Dissatisfaction is an excuse, but if the relationship is not healthy enough to where either partner can come to the other about major concerns, why are they in a relationship?? Yes, there are people who think the world is there to service them. Yes, there are people who go for it just "because it's there." I am sure that there are people who are dissatified and cheat for a number of motivations because of it. Cheating is a choice. Just because you are dissatisfied with the way things are going doesn't give you a right to cheat and get away with it. It is far easier to just break up in most cirucmstances, or talk through it.

Yes people can change, but generally they don't want to, so they don't
 
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My beliefs are these: there is no possible excuse to be unfaithful to your mate.If you are in a relationship you must respect your companion, and either you end the relationship or simply don't cheat.Relationships are not always Up,sometimes it gets Down,but that is part of the deal i guess...seems like human being is always looking for better and most of the times ends up in a worst situation and much more unhappy.
I say heal your past, bury your past, move on and you can always find Love in better circumstances with no re greats or fears!!God bless you.
 
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The worst thing about a second chance is, well not taking it. If you can't live without him work through it, many people have, more will and then some won't bother. Find your bottom line, how does he feel about her? how does he feel about you? is the key
 
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