Booty Call Detector - how to spot this early!!


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Str8upgurl is offline Str8upgurl Post #1  July 30,2009, 8:06pm
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Ladies and Gentlemen,

I met a sweet, wonderful guy a few months back. I was sent text messages several times a day, asked to meet up for drinks, and I was told I was "missable"..it was a lovely period of time. For all the common sense I should have, I dove head first into his "wooing" and thought he was really into me.

Then, I did what any warm blooded woman would with a man who drips gentle and seduction better than a leaking tap...I did the sex thing, and overnight (literally) Things went wrong, or came to light, and that's the reason for this post.

Right after "the act" , he stopped sending me messages, of any kind.My messages would be unreturned for days, of course until he was "ready", and I'd get a text giving me the "green light" to proceed over to his place. The fella was gentle and kind when I was there, and said all the right things to get me to think we were going somewhere, but once I was out the door, the neglect would proceed until I got the green light again. This can be weeks at a time. I was so dumb, I actually let this happen a few times, just to be sure it wasn't me being a clingon. we were dating for over 2 months and I realised the only time I saw him with clothes on (or had been anywhere with him that required clothes, if you get my drift) was the period before the sex happened. He dissapears all weekend long, everyweek, something about "flying" that I no longer believe takes all 48 hours of his weekend. I have gone so far as to suspect the man may be married.

Anyways, bad on me for not knowing better, and now I'm ready to move on with knowledge - hopefully knowledge that you lovely gentlemen and ladies will give me about the signs of being a "booty call" so that I can pick up the scent like a bloodhound and get out of there quick the next time. Perhaps waiting for a long time is key, or just knowing the signs and "modum operendi" of the men seeking this type of relationship.

All tips/comments/suggestions, are much much appreciated!!

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Ms666 is offline Ms666 Post #2  July 31,2009, 11:20am
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Yeah, he's married.

My #1 sign of a booty call: He calls you the day he wants to meet up. Ladies, he MUST ask you out 48 hours in advance. Otherwise, you are busy. Seriously, find something, anything else to do.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  July 31,2009, 11:31am
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Yeah, he's married.

My #1 sign of a booty call: He calls you the day he wants to meet up. Ladies, he MUST ask you out 48 hours in advance. Otherwise, you are busy. Seriously, find something, anything else to do.
+1 The later he contacts you asking to get together the higher the booty-o-meter goes up. Especially calling you at night and wanting to come over then? Forget about it.
 
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Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #4  July 31,2009, 11:54am
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Great new word.....Agree with other posts, married and looking for quick conquest to boost his ego. And best of all is the booty-o-meter ...great tool of measuring intent. You sound like a smart woman, who has thought this out well, understands our human pitfalls, learns and moves on..Good..
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+1 The later he contacts you asking to get together the higher the booty-o-meter goes up. Especially calling you at night and wanting to come over then? Forget about it.
 
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#2 He brings a 'ho-bag'*. I had a friend go out on a date with a guy from work. On their first date, they were going straight from work in her car out to dinner. He had her stop by his car and proceeded to pull out an OVERNIGHT bag out of his car. She found an excuse for them each take their own cars, and cut dinner really short. What a classy fella!
* definition: ho-bag is a bag containing the necessities for an overnighter when anticipating 'getting some' i.e. toothbrush, change of clothes, etc. The smaller the bag (I would guess) the less cheesy it seems.
 
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1.Any guy saying all these wonderful things about you right from start is bser. He doesn't know you yet.
Accept him as a player from the start and take it or leave it.

2.If a guy ignores after having sex, that is how is going to treat you. As a player, his wooing is done. He hhas you now. HE doesnt need to woo you anymore. Drop him like a bad habit. Do you accept a guy treating you like a cheap girl? no. Move on, if he doesn't contact you.

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Ms666 wrote :
My #1 sign of a booty call: He calls you the day he wants to meet up. Ladies, he MUST ask you out 48 hours in advance. Otherwise, you are busy. Seriously, find something, anything else to do.

I would dump a woman for playing a stupid, juvenile game like that on me. I would never entertain being told I “MUST” do anything … unless it’s my paycheck talking.
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Ms666 wrote :
#2 He brings a 'ho-bag'*. I had a friend go out on a date with a guy from work. On their first date, they were going straight from work in her car out to dinner. He had her stop by his car and proceeded to pull out an OVERNIGHT bag out of his car. She found an excuse for them each take their own cars, and cut dinner really short. What a classy fella!
* definition: ho-bag is a bag containing the necessities for an overnighter when anticipating 'getting some' i.e. toothbrush, change of clothes, etc. The smaller the bag (I would guess) the less cheesy it seems.
Sex has been exploited to us for so long, we have to realise how unique and wonderful we are, and that sex isn't for strangers. It is a response to a love relationship, and time is what it takes to make a relationship that lasts with time...if we're not careful with ourselves, we'll be used,cheapened,damaged,angry,sick, sad,unforgiving,empty, futile and who wants that? Who is going to care when your 55 yrs. old, skin sagging,wrinkles and grey? The guy who cares about relationship, not sex. GOD BLESS
 
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Ms666 wrote :
She found an excuse for them each take their own cars, and cut dinner really short. What a classy fella!

Eating a man’s entertainment dollar after already deciding not to date him is an excellent motivator for guys to react by treating women as the OP (ostensibly) was treated. What a “gold-digger” she is!
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