Bringing a Friend on a First Date?


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followmesky is offline followmesky Post #11  July 30,2009, 9:23pm
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I think the general belief is that women are taking a bigger risk than men when it comes to meeting strangers from the internet.

Give her a mulligan. Without knowing this woman as well as you may know her, she is obviously nervous about this. Assuming you're a normal guy and any attraction she has for you now will remain the same after you meet, she will ditch her friend in future dates. Men have seen it all when it comes to dealing with women, this is just another thing to maintain some kind of comfort zone.
thanks tbesq. That is exactly what I was thinking. However, it seems more and more people are becoming so comfortable with the net that excuse the fact of still being strangers. The internet has grown faster then ever - something to think about.
 
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I don't know how young she would have to be to bring along a friend. High school? Even then, most of us managed to date all by ourselves!

I can understand a woman wanting a friend along. But if I was to feel the need for that, I would have the friend just happen to be in the vicinity, not actually with us. I wouldn't even mention it to the man.

You offered to wait awhile. That should have let her know you were uncomfortable with her suggestion. I would want you to feel at ease meeting me, but that's just me...

There was that thread awhile back about the girl bringing along her friend and he turned out to be her boyfriend!

If you really want to meet her, make sure her friend is a girl, and tell her you'll bring along your own male friend. Maybe the four of you can go play pool or something.

At least you'll have some company on the drive over.
 
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fool4love628 wrote :
Hey everyone, just wanted to get some quick opinions on a situation. I got to open communication with a match who said she wasn't good at writing, so I gave her my phone number. She texted and asked if we could text for a little while instead of chatting on the phone. We've been texting for a couple of weeks, so I asked if we could meet. She lives an hour and a half away. She said sure, but she was going to bring a friend along. I offered to wait until we got to know each other better and she was comfortable meeting alone and emphasized wanting to meet somewhere very open and public for a quick tea or lunch, in case safety was an issue. She replied that she would bring a friend no matter what the first time we met. What gives? Isn't meeting someone new enough pressure instead of having to try and impress a friend too? Any thoughts? Suggestions? Insights?
Perhaps she should subsribe to on-line college instead of eHa.!!
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The real questions are....have you seen a photo?....and, is she hot?
 
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jayjay wrote :
The real questions are....have you seen a photo?....and, is she hot?
what?! who cares ....
looks aren't everything ....
 
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followmesky wrote :
thanks tbesq. That is exactly what I was thinking. However, it seems more and more people are becoming so comfortable with the net that excuse the fact of still being strangers. The internet has grown faster then ever - something to think about.
Yes, online dating has become more of the norm these days, especially for busy professionals. But in my online dating experience, even in these times many people are venturing into it for the first time, and some of the ways they show they reservations are almost comical. I don't think it says anything definitive about the person you'd like to get to know, they're often just very nervous.
 
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Thanks for all the opinions, it's really insightful to get different viewpoints. Just to add a little information, she's 24 and recently graduated college. I'm still undecided about what to do, although she has agreed to chat on the phone.
 
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fool4love628 wrote :
Thanks for all the opinions, it's really insightful to get different viewpoints. Just to add a little information, she's 24 and recently graduated college. I'm still undecided about what to do, although she has agreed to chat on the phone.
Then you take it one step at a time, one day at a time. She'll talk? Great! This gives you a chance to get to know more about her--cool thing about that is that you don't have to decide anything now. You just get to know her.

And getting to know her may help you know what you want to do, one day.

Good luck!
 
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fool4love628 wrote :
Thanks for all the opinions, it's really insightful to get different viewpoints. Just to add a little information, she's 24 and recently graduated college. I'm still undecided about what to do, although she has agreed to chat on the phone.
Wow, graduated college and doesn't feel like she can write well enough for an email conversation? Sad.
 
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I have had one first date where she brought her friend along ... Her friend was 'supposed' to be coming with her boyfriend, which didn't happen.

Go to a comedy club ... Her friend does all the talking and the girl I went there to meet says barely a thing ... End up paying for the drinks for both of them. Wouldn't date the friend, moral differences, and the prospective date didn't say much of anything, so assumed she felt the same. Thus closed the book.

First dates with chapperones = bad, first dates with unknown chapperones (ie. sitting a table or two down) = ok
 
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