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Originally Posted by NCSensuality
We know what we want and how to get it, so back off.... Don't keep trying to kiss us, fondle us, or be an octopus on a first date.


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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I always keep my hands to myself on a first date. Maybe that is my problem

I do want a hug at the end and if it is not offered I will ask. Never been told no but I would respect that.

I think it is ridiculous that anyone should wonder if their problem is that they are not getting physical enough on a first date. It's the first date! In my experience any guy, present company included, that was intent on getting physical on the first date is not planning on having a second or not planning on the relationship ever going deeper than casual sex.

Ladies, guys that are pushy on the first date are not relationship material. How crass.
 
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I have to agree w NCSensuality...too many times men interpret having a friendly easy-going have fun "date" is an invitation for more....What ever happened to "courting" ... I don't want to make this too sexist, I'm sure that men feel "rushed" by women so it does make it difficult to go into a first-time "date" and be as open, friendly, fun without sending the other person into a "lust-state."
 
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[quote=SoOverIt;691859]Women really are they're own worst enemy, with thinking like this you'll be lining for botox and plastic surgery in no time. Not to mention the connotation that you've got to "get it" from anyone who's offering it while you can. What kind of negative affirmation is this? At the very least it shows you've put an expiry date on yourself and see your own value entirely within the age of your body. Truly sad.




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Women really are they're own worst enemy, with thinking like this you'll be lining for botox and plastic surgery in no time. Not to mention the connotation that you've got to "get it" from anyone who's offering it while you can. What kind of negative affirmation is this? At the very least it shows you've put an expiry date on yourself and see your own value entirely within the age of your body. Truly sad.
Funny you should mention it, I have already had two major plastic surg.s done and am thrilled with the results and very thankful for the opportunity to have done them. I take pride in making my body as beautiful as possible for as long as possible and being an awesome gift to someone as a lover, well nothing compares to that...I see nothing sad about this. We women need to take control of our lives and our bodies - and I meant not to negatively affirm anything or say get it while you can. I say love yourself and be awesome!
 
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Hmmm. A no-no on a first date....

I don't want to see any nipple at the restaurant during dinner. Ok, I a big, fat liar!!
 
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NCSensuality wrote :
Older women, such as myself, are not usually shy. We know what we want and how to get it, so back off.... Don't keep trying to kiss us, fondle us, or be an octopus on a first date. I appreciate a gentleman when I first meet, someone who has clean hygenine, wears aftershave, and especially has peppermint gum in his mouth!!!!!!
I was kind of curious about the "We know what we want and how to get it" part of your post. Get what? What do you know how to get? Maybe your date is thinking the same thing which is why he's putting his tentacles on you. Good to hear some folks have some things in common.
 
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NCSensuality wrote :
Older women, such as myself, are not usually shy. We know what we want and how to get it, so back off.... Don't keep trying to kiss us, fondle us, or be an octopus on a first date. I appreciate a gentleman when I first meet, someone who has clean hygenine, wears aftershave, and especially has peppermint gum in his mouth!!!!!!
Gum chewing is illegal in Singapore (just in case you have a date there)
 
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NCSensuality wrote :
Don't keep trying to kiss us, fondle us, or be an octopus on a first date.
I guess my strategy of spraying ink is failing.
 
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inn wrote :
Gum chewing is illegal in Singapore (just in case you have a date there)

I'll be arrested in only about 5 weeks, and then again about 5 weeks after that?!

I'm flying to Europe and back with stopovers in Singapore both ways. I'll try to restrain myself from eating and chewing anything in Singapore, just in case. Can I drink alcohol though?...
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