Hi Im a black woman in Britain who loves White men. I dont know but I havent been able to land one that I would say was worth the stress. I know there are good ones out there who are not just looking to experiment, but they want more. Please if anyone has any advice on finding a good white guy who likes BB black women please send me a reply.
There are plenty of white guys out there who like black women, sorry to hear that you've just met the problem ones. I'm not too sure what you mean by "They want more" though, more what? Commitment? Excitement? Cleavage?
There are good and bad eggs in every group, and as with anything worth having, sometimes you have to throw away a lot of bad eggs before you find it.
One of the reasons you may not be getting a lot of responses is because these kinds of threads have had a tendency to turn ugly. People who prefer to date within their own ethnicity are hesitant to respond because they fear being labeled as racist, and you'll get some guys who'll say "sure I'd have no problem dating a black woman if ........." when in reality what they really mean is they'd do it if she looked like Halle Barry.
So the problem is getting really honest answers to a question like this.
Also another factor might be that your subject line is about Britain, and I'm guessing the overwhelming majority of posters are from the U.S.
I do not know a lot about British culture, so I can only give you somewhat of an American perspective. Also keep in mind that I'm from the southern U.S., and someone who lives in a more cosmopolitan area such as New York, Chicago, or L.A., may have a different take.
From my observation it seems white women are more open to dating black men than white men are willing to date black women. On another thread you mentioned that from your observation the white men who were willing to date black women wanted ones that were smaller and more light skinned. This would seem consistent with the fact that white men would gravitate toward a black woman who was closer in looks to their own ethnicity.
I'm not going to question your reasons for only wanting to go out with white men because I believe everyone is entitled to their preferences. I do think though you are strongly limiting your choices, as I'm sure there would be many black men who would also fit most of the ideals you are wanting.
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