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He does not sound even remotely shy. He does seem like he is not interested enough in you to make the effort. In short, you are kind of a backburner thing, just in case one day he finds himself bored and alone.
Oh I really, really, really agree here.

If your tired of being this cat's play thing, then tell him so an stop letting him use you to amuse himself.

The thing is that If you confront him about his behavior then he'll probably do one of two things, those things being either,

(A) try to 'prove' to you that he was serious about his interest in you by actually coming over there to see you (with high hopes of gettin him some action of some sort)
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(B) He'll see that you've caught onto his lil game an will poof or gradually leave you alone. (gradually as in every few days or weeks he might call or text or IM to see if your willing to have a roll in the hay, at least thats what he'll be thinkin, an if thats what you want go for it otherwise roll on rock star!)

This is jus how I see it, I could very well be way off base, but after reading your post this is what I Feel he is doing.
If this is what he's up to, then your way better off anyway.
Last edited by pds857; July 24th, 2009 at 09:17 am. Reason: I now have that song 'Roll on' by alabama in my head Great! lol
- July 24th, 2009, 09:07 am
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He is immature and a game player. The game is to set you up and then knock you down. To establish himself as the boss. Drop him and find someone that treats you with respect. Just tell him that opportunity knocks but once, and the door has closed so long, good bye, see you around!

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- July 24th, 2009, 09:19 am
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I guess Im the cat, hes the mouse.
- July 24th, 2009, 11:23 am
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I think I have NEVER met a shy man. I have met many "unavailable" men, however; this guy sounds like one of those. He acts interested (sort of) and then does not folllow through? I must agree with the poster who said he is probably just looking for a booty call (either that or web cam porn...of you!). Stop talking to him alltogether, he seems not to be worth you time.
- July 24th, 2009, 12:43 pm
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Love that line Harvey, and I'll have use that sometime

That guy sounds like a player who's very immature. Toss him to the curb and move on

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Just tell him that opportunity knocks but once, and the door has closed so long, good bye, see you around!

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- July 24th, 2009, 01:02 pm
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I agree that I would explain things to him like you did here. What I fail to understand is how an hour's drive is considered long distance. If you live in a large city it can take you an hour just to make it across town depending on a number of things. Even if you live in a rural area it is most likely you will have to pass through at least one small town or more which causes the time to add up.

Personally I would have closed him out when he did his do show. Good luck
- July 24th, 2009, 02:41 pm
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Thanks for all of your answers, you all have helped me figguer out how to deal with this properly.
- July 24th, 2009, 03:52 pm
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angelofmerci wrote :
I agree that I would explain things to him like you did here. What I fail to understand is how an hour's drive is considered long distance. If you live in a large city it can take you an hour just to make it across town depending on a number of things. Even if you live in a rural area it is most likely you will have to pass through at least one small town or more which causes the time to add up.

Personally I would have closed him out when he did his do show. Good luck
I agree, an hour is not that much of a drive - it most certainly is not long distance!! I live in Chicago and just to get to some of the burbs can take an hour. Geez, just to drive across town can take an hour!! It's worth the drive if that person is really interested in seeing you.

He may not be looking for a booty call, (don't you actually have to show up to try to get the booty??), but he is definitely an inconsiderate boob. He would only have one time to no call/no show on me unless he is somehow physically incapacitated due to some terrible accident and can't call! If you do decide to continue communicating with this guy, even though I don't know why you would, the next time he says he wants to meet you-at the very least hold on to some dignity and tell him that you are busy. I wouldn't even give him the satisfaction of letting him know that I was upset that he didn't show. Do this a couple of times and he should get the message.
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I think this is a perfect example of "game playing." I didn't used to know what that term meant, but I've been played a few times. On again, off again, on again, OFF FOR GOOD! Don't bother with him.
- July 24th, 2009, 07:41 pm
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seems he didn't feel super connection and is too lazy to drive two hrs just to meet. it's understandable, why someone makes such an effort if there's someone close by? my suggestion is cut him loose.
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