Finding Love: Why You Shouldn't Give Up

Finding Love: Why You Shouldn't Give Up

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Finding Love: Why You Shouldn't Give Up


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shapeShifter79 is offline shapeShifter79 Post #81  April 27,2011, 6:20pm
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goeseast wrote :
"EASY FOR ALL OF YOU TO SAY THIS FOR YOU ALREADY HAVE SOMEBODY IN YOUR LIFE NOW,YOU DONT HAVE ANY IDEA HOW LONELY I FEEL!!!!!!!!"
I don't have a partner and I'm not lonely.

Have you ever read the Great Gatsby?

People can be lonely in a crowd, or lonely married, or lonely single. Loneliness and being alone are completely different things!

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For the "speaking to women" issue, I believe we are a small statistical portion of male population with this problem. There are other male responses on Eh threads admitting to the same form of behavior. Is it a self-confidence thing? a neurological thing? I'm not sure. Is there a shink in the room who can give it a shot?
No, but there's a wonderful therapist whose office I've passed by a few times who can teach you alot. His name is David D. Burns and his book (relevant to your dilemma) is called Intimate Connections. It's not about getting laid, it may not land you a date, and it won't tell you what to say--but it will help you be unafraid to speak to the opposite sex. He also has a really good book on depression.
 
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I may be only 20 years old, but I have never been so depressed from not being able to find someone. I am a bit bigger, not by much, but I just want someone who will appreciate me for me.... it hurts so much :`(
 
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Thatsa great saying but it's not based in reality. I am a happy person and like being me. I would like it if I had someone to enjoy it with but apparently looks are all that matters. So I continue on as a single person who has a good life but just wishes I had someone who woud take the time to look deeper. 
 
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Im not sure how true it is. I think its like what my mom and grandma always said to make me feel better. Oh hunny the reason your alone is because men are intimdated by u. I think that translates oh hunny it's because you are ugly. LOL
 
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it feels so good when you stop hitting yourself in the head with a hammer.
Your point is...
 
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This thread seems to have attracted a lot of new posters to the EH Advice boards, and I hope that you can find some support and inspiration by reading some of the threads here.

Like you, I am single and looking for a partner and there are times when I get blue. I find it helps to get some positive reassurance from friends and family, but I have to sometimes seek it out. I have learned to ask for hugs, and I've never been turned down!

Some of the people on these boards have become my friends, and I have even met a few of them in real life. Being able to come here has been a huge help to me in learning the dating dance and coping with the myriad emotions that go along with that.

I want to encourage everyone to get the emotional support that you need, wherever you can get it. It doesn't have to be a confidante or a lover. Everyone can lend an ear and give a hug, but you may have to ask them for it.
 
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annother wrote :
I want to encourage everyone to get the emotional support that you need, wherever you can get it. It doesn't have to be a confidante or a lover. Everyone can lend an ear and give a hug, but you may have to ask them for it.
Annother - that is such great advice, and it bears repeating!
 
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