I had the right lid for 25 years and now he's gone, I feel like i'll be a lidless pot for the rest of my life. Signing up for eH and then trying to give them a second chance is not helping. It's way too discouraging.
I don't need a perfect fitting lid, my pot is warped and I want a warped lid that might not sit on my pot perfectly but at least can have a great time trying.
I used to think this way, never give up and keep going at it but in 12 yrs Ive had 3 dates, its nothing to do with my personality people just dont contact me or even bother attempting to get to know me, I dont get to meet people now because I have slowly got worse medically and when I used to get out and about no one was interested in talking to me so I decided enough was enough at the end of last year. Im just not anyones type and because of that Im undateable. It doesnt matter who you are at the end of the day if you arent the type of person women are looking for you might aswell forget it.
I've had over 2,800 matches on here in 7 years and only 3 dates. The EH commercials make it look so easy, reality is far different and I think that needs to be in a disclaimer.
I used to think this way, never give up and keep going at it but in 12 yrs Ive had 3 dates, its nothing to do with my personality people just dont contact me or even bother attempting to get to know me, I dont get to meet people now because I have slowly got worse medically and when I used to get out and about no one was interested in talking to me so I decided enough was enough at the end of last year. Im just not anyones type and because of that Im undateable. It doesnt matter who you are at the end of the day if you arent the type of person women are looking for you might aswell forget it.
It goes both ways. I'm female and have only had a couple dates in the past 2 years (and my medical problem is not even visible!) Such a shame that men don't want to take the time to get to know wonderful me. I still hold onto the hope that one day I'll meet that special man.
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Yeah, I have never spoken to a woman like that either.
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You have to throw all your eggs into one basket for love to work at all. Relationships are inherently riskier than careers. You can't use the same rules.
You might lose ... –
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