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Sorry, but what is the problem here, again?

Ask her out when she returns. If you fear rejection, please refer to the "Fear of rejection thread" somewhere around here...

As for the flowers, are you sure she even received them prior to departure? Do you know why she may not have had a chance to thank you?

Unless you are certain of the answers to both questions above, let's go back to the original plan of asking her out upon her return, etc.

You can ask her if she received your flowers during the date (after she has accepted your invitation, of course ), in a light-hearted manner. This way you get the date you want, with the girl you want, and you get your questions answered.

What's the problem here, again?

Now, please go to sleep and dream up a fantastic date for you two to enjoy!
- July 22nd, 2009, 03:55 am
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I'm going to have to agree that the flowers are creepy. It's too much, see.
- July 22nd, 2009, 04:52 am
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Mr_Right wrote :
I'm going to have to agree that the flowers are creepy. It's too much, see.

Are your turning into a Mr_Wrong here?
Flowers are creepy?

I could think of a few much creepier things that we, Ladies, sometimes choose to overlook for certain Mr_Rights...
- July 22nd, 2009, 05:00 am
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Nope, the flowers were excessive. Like Jedi_Scout said, people become nervous when the attention is too much.
- July 22nd, 2009, 05:04 am
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Mr_Right wrote :
Nope, the flowers were excessive. Like Jedi_Scout said, people become nervous when the attention is too much.
Ok, how about this title for now:
Mr_Not_Right_Yet_But_Possibly_Maybe_Some_Time_This _Century_Even_If_Not_In_This_Life_Time

- July 22nd, 2009, 05:15 am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Ok, how about this title for now:
Mr_Not_Right_Yet_But_Possibly_Maybe_Some_Time_This _Century_Even_If_Not_In_This_Life_Time

Say what you want, I highly suspect that the flowers were over the top.
- July 22nd, 2009, 05:18 am
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Mr_Right wrote :
Say what you want, I highly suspect that the flowers were over the top.

You should know by now that I always say and do what I want .
And right now, since you insist on arguing with me, I want a rest from this place , so I'm flying back to the Moon .

But if you happen to come across Wootz any time in the real and near future (preferably hopefully maybe some time this century, hopefully, or if you know his real life personal contact details), be sure to let me know, in some kind of not-so-creepy way, of course!

I still stand by my advice in this thread though:
If you like someone, for REAL - Tell them, ask them out, send them flowers, put a smile on their face (instead of a frown, if you can) in any way you know how, and let them know that you care

Best of luck and best wishes from your friendly Lady Moon!
- July 22nd, 2009, 05:40 am
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My xwife is a waitress and has been all her life. She is head waitress where she is now and has been there for 20+ years. Yes, she got hit on alot, she was beautiful and a body that would attract any man. She sometimes would come home crying because some man went a little to far. I remember a few times wanting to go find this guy but in time I realized she just needed to vent and have my loving support. She had a couple REAL stalkers that would be outside her work when she got out, that's going to far. If you see a waitress being walked to her car by the cook, she probably had a stalker. I realized also that if things got to far, the cooks in the back have BIG knives and everyone that works at the restaurant support each other. You mess with the waitress you may have to deal with the staff, watch your food buddy, lol.
As for the flowers, my xwife received a few of those with numbers if not just a number on the bill, she never returned any of the calls that I know of. She would just come home with some story about how the guy was hitting on her or whatever the case was, nothing more.
- July 22nd, 2009, 06:46 am
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The only problem with asking a waitress out is that every guy and his brother is hitting on her. However, you have nothing to lose if you just go ahead and ask her out. If she is busy and you are not able to ask her directly you could slip her a note with your phone number or e-mail address and ask her to contact you when she has a minute.

J0hn8andy is just in another generation and really needs to get with the 21st century.
- July 22nd, 2009, 08:17 am
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Wow, there is some real great advice here! I'm impressed!
- July 22nd, 2009, 08:47 am
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