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Benevolence32 is offline Benevolence32 Post #1  July 21,2009, 11:22am
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This is mostly a question for the ladies and I know there are a few threads regarding distance but I think I'm looking for a different spin on it.

My question is how much do you take distance into account when a potential suitor writes you? Like on a site like p.o.f. are you more likely to respond to a guy that lives only like 15 miles away as opposed to let's say 50 miles? I'm just wondering because I'm thinking of revising the women I write to and possibly focus my efforts on women that live closer instead of trying to cast such a wide net. I know if you're in a rural area it's different but this is assuming you live in a more urban area like I do and have options close to you.
 
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Closer is easier but I have a radius that I stick to. Anything within one hour is fine by me. My girlfriend is 45mins away but we are able to meet in the middle or take turns driveing to one anouther. Anymore than this and it becomes a burden for most adults.
 
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The wider the net the more you catch. But put one sharp hook out with some fresh, excellent bait, and BAM there's a great fish on the line right under the boat!
 
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I live in the suburban sprawl 20 minutes over the bridge from Philadelphia. When I signed up for eH I eliminated matches in Philly because I thought it was too far, as I had tons of matches in the surrounding local towns. But as it turned out, my SO is 25 miles away in Philly and it takes just a bit over 1/2 hour each way. As much as we see each other (5 - 6 nights a week), I think any further would be a problem.

But then from what I've been reading from other posters here, I guess I'm one of the fortunate ones.
 
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I have my distance set at more than 50 miles from where I live. I've met some nice people this way - not necessarily perfect matches, but I noticed that if I have the setting too close to home, I don't get any matches at all.

Whether I close a match or not depends a lot more on how much we have in common and how much the guy has in his profile about himself.
 
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Distance is no problem at all if both of you live near a good sized airport.
 
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Robecology wrote :
The wider the net the more you catch. But put one sharp hook out with some fresh, excellent bait, and BAM there's a great fish on the line right under the boat!

Thank you, Jacques Costeau!!!
 
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6dle899 wrote :
Thank you, Jacques Costeau!!!

That is a very feminine font. How long have you lived in San Francisco?
 
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hazmat wrote :
Distance is no problem at all if both of you live near a good sized airport.
What he said, assuming the match is worthwhile.
 
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