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Am I the only one that notices when the op says this is a question for the ladies, it's mostly men that respond... and vice versa.

just sayin'
- July 21st, 2009, 06:13 pm
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I have my settings set at the lowest distance. I get enough matches to not worry about changing distance.

I don't know how pof does their distance matching. If someone were farther out, but seemed very interesting, I would go up to 45 miles and meet once ot twice before possibly ruling them out.
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- July 21st, 2009, 06:20 pm
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Like "hazmat" said, I definately agree that distance is no problem at all if both of you live near an airport.

Distance is only a problem if you make it one, as chances are the risk is worth it as you never know who you might end up with. It worked for me for over 2+ years long distance (he lived in South Carolina and I lived in Washington, DC).

Though we are no longer together (different story for another night), if the opportunity presents itself -- go for it. If I had to do it all over again, I would if someone made it worth my while.

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Distance is no problem at all if both of you live near a good sized airport.
- July 21st, 2009, 09:23 pm
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I prefer to look locally, but it's very hard to find single people in the area where I live. So I have it pretty open in terms of distance. The frustrating thing is getting matches who seem very compatible with me only to get rejected because of the distance factor.

Hey, if a woman can find a guy on Facebook with her name I guess anything is possible, right?
- July 21st, 2009, 09:54 pm
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PoliticalChick01 wrote :
Like "hazmat" said, I definately agree that distance is no problem at all if both of you live near an airport.

Distance is only a problem if you make it one, as chances are the risk is worth it as you never know who you might end up with. It worked for me for over 2+ years long distance (he lived in South Carolina and I lived in Washington, DC).

Though we are no longer together (different story for another night), if the opportunity presents itself -- go for it. If I had to do it all over again, I would if someone made it worth my while.
What part of South Carolina was he from? I know it's very hard to find single women in my area (I live near Charleston). Either they are twentysomethings who think that you're "too old" or they're fortysomethings who think that you're "too young." You can't win.
- July 21st, 2009, 09:56 pm
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hazmat wrote :
Distance is no problem at all if both of you live near a good sized airport.
Dating long distance is very tough even if you live near an airport. If you are going to do it, you should have a conversation early on about your goals and expectations.
- July 21st, 2009, 10:19 pm
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hazmat wrote :
Distance is no problem at all if both of you live near a good sized airport.
I disagree. If you want a long-term relationship, distance is a huge problem unless one of you is willing to relocate. And really, who can afford to fly every weekend? Before we were married, my ex-husband moved away for a year and a half... a 7 hour drive away... before finally moving back. I won't do another long-distance relationship... they're too hard and too painful.

Personally, I will not consider relocation. I don't particularly want someone I don't know well to relocate for me, and it's too hard to get to know someone well from a distance.

For me... half hour drive is tops. My life is too busy to spend my precious free time driving instead of actually being in a relationship.
- July 21st, 2009, 10:28 pm
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on pof my setting is 75miles, on eHa it's North America. In reality, I travel for a living, so it really doesn't matter ....
- July 21st, 2009, 11:35 pm
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I had dinner with a utterly delightful eHarmony advice poster a couple of times last week, near the SF airport, and recall telling her that IMO after about a year, or a year and a half, if it was working out ONE person would surely have to move.

In my case, it would probably be me, because my circumstances allow that on all levels.

Also, I like to drive, so my "distance" is 500 miles each way, no problems basically for me to take that on. But it's true the spontaneous moments turn into "planned" ones.
- July 21st, 2009, 11:42 pm
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hey 6dle899 , Good to hear!!!!!!
I'm still waiting for that cup of coffee ...
- July 21st, 2009, 11:53 pm
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