Befriending (and possibly dating) a painfully shy man


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dark_mullet is offline dark_mullet Post #31  July 20,2009, 8:28am
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Let's make sure the Science comparison is complete.

Opposites attract and then they collide, hard.
 
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Although it normally is not wise to date someone from work as it can lead to problems down the road, it is becoming a much used source of dates. Guys that are extremely shy are definitely a challenge for any girl. Alot of times it requires hitting them over the head to get it through to them that you are interested in dating them. I was one of those. I was interested in taking one girl to the drag races in another city when I was in high school. Her friend and my classmate told me she would love to go to the drag races. I suggested we could double date as I thought she was still going steady. When the girl I was interested in said her parents would not let her do a long distance trip the other girl again said she would love to go to the races. Unfortunately she did not tell me she was no longer going steady or I would have asked her to go. Communications is the key. Do not assume anything. Good luck
 
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AustinShaguar wrote :
No one said anything about not being able to communicate. What do you think my "staring into each" comment was all about? Obviously, they are great at telepathic communication. See what you don't understand about introverts is that they are all telepathic. Its just that the rest of us can't hear them telepathically communicating with us. We just assume they are "quiet" and label them introverts.

Hehehe....actually, isn't there some sort of saying about "opposites attract"?


*Sends telepathic message*
 
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redevil999 wrote :


*Sends telepathic message*
*receives message*

You are such a "bad gurl".
 
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zal is offline zal Post #35  July 20,2009, 5:56pm
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Couple of things. First you said that he is somewhat new. Do you have any supervisory authority over him? If so, stop any contact with him that is not work specific. If not, then what are your company's policies concerning romantic relationships in the office? Many companies are very sensitive to the pitfalls of romance in the work place.

I agree very strongly with those who here who have counseled "never date in the work place." Very good advice, and a rule I have religiously followed myself.

I would back off for a while until he is more comfortable with the environment.
 
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