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I don't even know where to begin. I seem to have the worst luck when it comes to meeting the right guy. I do meet some very nice men. They treat me well but don't really want to move forward. I keep getting the "it's not you, it's me" type of attitude. Or if they do want to move forward, I don't feel that attraction to them.

I've gotten so low, I've resorted to contacting psychics. I mean seriously, how desperate is that?? I am an intelligent woman. I know that a psychic can only tell me what I myself can figure out on my own (intuition), but I suppose I was looking for someone to tell me it's going to be alright. But in the end I feel worse because I've spent money I should not have.

I don't consider myself to be clingy or an emotional mess. I just need to find some hope somewhere. I don't feel like this all the time, but there are those rare occassions where I feel like I've hit rock bottom. Perhaps it's just the stresses of my life piling up on me and this is just the straw that is breaking the camel's back.

I'm even tired of eHarmony. Ninety percent of the "matches" I get are so far from what I want. I thought this site was supposed to match me with someone that would be great for me. Perhaps I should have specified I'd like to be attracted to the man physically as well as emotionally/intellectually. Otherwise it's just another friend that I have no time for in my life right now.

Oh and let me toss out there that I have a huge issue with dating to begin with. I don't want to "shop" for a man. I feel like there is a stigma attached to that. I just want to meet someone and feel like if I'm meant to meet him then he'll be in my life no matter where I am or what I am doing. It's probably a backwards way of thinking but every one I've been with in the past entered my life this way. I should also say I've been in 2 ... count them 2-TWO **holds up 2 fingers** relationships in my life. One was my first love in high school and one was my ex-husband of 17 years. And to add salt to the wound, both are still in my life. WTHeck? I know why my ex is (the kids), but first love? Why do I allow my kindness to allow these men to have a big role in my life?

Someone told me once that I need to learn how to tell a guy to hit the road if there isn't a connection. I can rationalize how this is an appropriate action but my basic personality does not allow me to do that. I just feel like if these men were put in my life and walked a ways on the path with me then there is something good about them. Besides the breakups weren't ugly. They were mutual decisions.

Ugh... I need to do something...anything... I feel like I'm falling into the inescapable abyss of "old lady with the cats".

**wanders off to bang head on the wall**
 
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