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Bearwolf102 is offline Bearwolf102 Post #1  July 16,2009, 12:48pm
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Hey folks can you help me figure this one out? I have been seeing an awesome girl for the past month and a half. We are both busy people so we average one date a week if that. We talk on the phone and email and txt between. Things seem to be going very well and I really like her.
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My guess is a step back. That is an odd request & I think that you handled it the only way that you could.

Hanging out with her friends is not the weirdest thing but the fact that you are doing dinner & a movie with just one other person is the odd part.
 
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That is the kicker isn't it. If we were going to the fair, or the zoo, or a waterpark, heck bowling, than it would be a none issue. But it kind of feels like she is brining a shaparon....I hope thats not it but...
 
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I would need to know more information to get a feel if this is good or bad.

If there is something about us that makes the lady not trust us, she will want someone with her, but then too, she just might want to get a read from a friend or even bring one of her friends in for you to meet (to share a little more of her).

Just the one time, I would not worry, but if she wants to brind someone along on all the dates, then you might have a problem there.

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rotfl the smilies in your post are distracting.

Okay, to answer, I would say she isn't that interested in you if she doesn't just want to be with you on one of the rare occasions that you get together, OR she wants her friend to give an opinion on you, OR she wants to set you up with her friend?

Yeah, definitely something askew.

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Thats a good point BobinFla. I will just wait and see. So far we have just had fun. No hard push. I am giveing her pleanty of space to do her work. Communicating but not smothering. We are takeing it very slow kindof out of neccesity.
 
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Bearwolf102 wrote :

However folks what do you think this means? Are we taking a step forward (she is introducing me to her friends) or are we taking a step back (group activities)?>>
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Hmmm. Maybe a giant leap forward if you know what I mean. (Group activities)?
 
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Thank you Nanette. Sorry for the office formating with the smiles. That was a mistake.

Not sure how to read it. But I agree not what I expected. A little odd. Trying to stay optomistic but I want to be realistic...
 
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Well Tweet37 I don't think she is that kind of girl...
 
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I think she is trying to slow things down or setting you up for the dreaded "friends zone." I hope you are not expected to treat her friend to the dinner and movie. That would definitely be a deal breaker. Good luck
 
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