Should women take advice from a guy on how to land a man?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_LoriAdvice Official Moderator Post #1  July 14,2009, 3:50pm
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In this summer’s comedy The Ugly Truth, Katherine Heigl plays a character who is a bit romantically challenged. Her search for Mr. Perfect has left her hopelessly single. In walks Gerard Butler who promises to spill the ugly truth to her on what makes men and women tick. His advice is a little harsh…but maybe truthful.

What do you think? Can a guy really give good counsel on how to land a man?
 
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I'll answer the question. Three of my closest friends are men, including my very best friend, and I have found that when I ask them for the male perspective, the advice they usually give me is pretty spot on. The best thing they do for me is sometimes point out the obvious, or even the more simple reasons for things, than my own head dreams up....know what I mean?

I'm not sure if I would want them to coach me on how to flirt, etc. - but I don't think I'd want anyone else to coach me on that, either.

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all my guy friends are single. i do not take dating advice from single people.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #4  July 17,2009, 11:02am
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There would be absolutely NO WAY. Guys often don't understand their own feelings and motivations, I would never ask one for advice, even a guy friend. Ever.
 
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Do guys actually land men? Men worth keeping? If they did I'd solicit their advice. Otherwise, I'm just as happy figuring it out on my own. It's not that I wouldn't consider advice offered, but I'd consider the source as well. Want to know what works? Ask a 70 year old woman who's been married 50 years. It might scare you though.

(But Gerard Butler can boss me around any old day.)
 
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How about just be yourself or your going to end up divorced anyway. - my advice

why is EH encouraging Bait & Switch?

Is our high divorce rate & declining marriage rate not enough?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #7  July 17,2009, 11:42am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I think this type of advice generally comes down to how to hide your true personality and present a false image that someone will like. I think people are better off even without some of the dating advice given on this site...because you're better off being who you really are rather than 'what someone will like'.

On the flip side, if someone doesn't like who you are I think in the long run you're better off simply not being with them...not trying to find a way to convince them to be with you.
 
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Nanette wrote :
There would be absolutely NO WAY. Guys often don't understand their own feelings and motivations, I would never ask one for advice, even a guy friend. Ever.
Let me guess you ask your single girl friends for advice. The very same ones that don't seem to be having any better luck than you are.
 
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Who would know how guys think better than a guy.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Who would know how guys think better than a guy.

A Frog?
 
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