Curious, how many people are getting more dates from other on-line dating sites?


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inn is offline inn Post #1  July 13,2009, 8:52pm
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Hi ...
I've been with eHA for about 5 months with zilcho (0) dates. At this point I have no intentions of renewing my subscription. I'm getting more activity from another dating site than eHA.
What about you?
 
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I have yet to meet anyone from EH - have had much better luck with other dating sites.
 
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I met my SO on another site.
 
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There was a time about 8 months ago or so when I got most of my dates from other dating sites, but recently it's been mostly eH. I can't really pinpoint why that is but I'm finding that the women I've been dating recently off of eH have been of higher quality (i.e. we were a better match) than the women before from other dating sites. It's probably just coincidence though.
 
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I have been on eHarmony nearly 1 year. My subscription expires just before the end of this month. Despite the "success stories" of people finding their mate just as they were about to let their subscription lapse, I don't intend to renew.

I have met far more people off of another dating site. I can't say for sure whether my matches on eHarmony were of better quality since I've never actually met anyone from eHarmony. My matches on the other site are pretty high quality, but I am very particular about who I will even e-mail with there.

I am currently in communication with two seemingly compatible guys from online, but suspect my next date will actually be the guy I connected with at my class reunion.
 
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I have been on eHarmony nearly 1 year. My subscription expires just before the end of this month. Despite the "success stories" of people finding their mate just as they were about to let their subscription lapse, I don't intend to renew.

I have met far more people off of another dating site. I can't say for sure whether my matches on eHarmony were of better quality since I've never actually met anyone from eHarmony. My matches on the other site are pretty high quality, but I am very particular about who I will even e-mail with there.

I am currently in communication with two seemingly compatible guys from online, but suspect my next date will actually be the guy I connected with at my class reunion.

eH is my first experience of online dating and I'm NOT impressed. The 2 main things I stipulated in my profile have constantly been overlooked and I'm getting "matched" with men who do/have these things. I close my matches with a polite excuse as I don't want to offend & it's not their fault they have been matched with me. I have not had one date since joining and I doubt I will at all, not because of my profile, but because I feel it's pretty much a hit and miss thing, and eH misses ALL the time. Initially I was inundated with matches, now I'm just wasting my time & money. By the way, does eH or anyone out there know why after 3 first steps you never get to the 4th, even tho the match hasn't been closed?
 
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I've been on eH off and on since they started. In all that time, I have only even met 3 people in person. None of the three were relationship potential, and I had only agreed to meet them as a courtesy to them. In all these years, I have not met anyone that I thought was the kind of person I was looking for or that had mutual interest in me. I get matches that are not even close to meeting my minimum criteria, and I get a lot of non-communicating matches. eH also historically has not respected my distance settings. Therefore, I get a large percentage of matches that close me out due to distance.

Conversely, I have had some luck with another very large and well-known dating site. I met my ex SO there, and my brother met his wife there. There are lots and lots of local matches, and the matches actually communicate- unlike eH. I can decide for myself which matches meet my criteria, instead of a computer telling me who I should be interested in.
 
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number83 wrote :
eH is my first experience of online dating and I'm NOT impressed. The 2 main things I stipulated in my profile have constantly been overlooked and I'm getting "matched" with men who do/have these things. I close my matches with a polite excuse as I don't want to offend & it's not their fault they have been matched with me. I have not had one date since joining and I doubt I will at all, not because of my profile, but because I feel it's pretty much a hit and miss thing, and eH misses ALL the time. Initially I was inundated with matches, now I'm just wasting my time & money. By the way, does eH or anyone out there know why after 3 first steps you never get to the 4th, even tho the match hasn't been closed?
I hate that. On the one hand, at least I know I'm worth having "in the wings." On the other, being "in the wings" it's not a fun place to be. Either talk to me, or close me.

To the OP, I had very limited success with any other site. I was getting horrible matches, but then I wasn't looking just for a date, but for someone with more potential than that. I guess it depends on what your purpose is.
 
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number83 wrote :
eH is my first experience of online dating and I'm NOT impressed. The 2 main things I stipulated in my profile have constantly been overlooked and I'm getting "matched" with men who do/have these things. I close my matches with a polite excuse as I don't want to offend & it's not their fault they have been matched with me. I have not had one date since joining and I doubt I will at all, not because of my profile, but because I feel it's pretty much a hit and miss thing, and eH misses ALL the time. Initially I was inundated with matches, now I'm just wasting my time & money. By the way, does eH or anyone out there know why after 3 first steps you never get to the 4th, even tho the match hasn't been closed?
I'm not sure what your stipulations are, but I wanted to clarify for you that nothing that you write in your profile is used as a matching factor. eH has no way of screening candidates based on what you write in your profile. You can, though,indicate your preferences regarding smoking, drinking, distance, religion, children, etc., and eH will match on those factors after it has matched on the 29 dimensions...(make sure that you indicate which factors are especially important to you to reduce the chances that those factors will be adhered to in flexible matching).

With respect to not reaching the 4th stage... If your match initiated communication, then I believe that you are the one who must initiate open communication. Go back and make sure that you have taken that step so your matches can respond to you. Other than that, some people just decide not to continue communication through to that stage and just fade off...
 
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I'd say that date wise I probably would get more dates from other sites than EH, however I still got plenty from EH too. Overall though, the matches from EH were much better quality than those from other sites. So, if you are counting success by just the sheer number of dates you are goin on....well....other sites are probably better. If success is more about compatability, then EH is actually better. I do wonder, OP if you may be closing out too many of your matches for trivial things in their profile......
 
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