Curious, how many people are getting more dates from other on-line dating sites?


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Wonderwoman402 is online now Wonderwoman402 Post #21  July 14,2009, 2:47pm
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I'd say that date wise I probably would get more dates from other sites than EH, however I still got plenty from EH too. Overall though, the matches from EH were much better quality than those from other sites. So, if you are counting success by just the sheer number of dates you are goin on....well....other sites are probably better. If success is more about compatability, then EH is actually better. I do wonder, OP if you may be closing out too many of your matches for trivial things in their profile......
Since you have to actually date someone before knowing whether you're really a match, and I have had zero dates from eHarmony, I have to count the success... or lack thereof... on eHarmony by the "sheer number of dates." Even on the sheer number of potential matches, eHarmony has only delivered 80-something matches to my mailbox in a year's time, the vast majority of which have never even looked at my profile or communicated in any way. I can count on my fingers with several left over how many have even gotten to OC.

I would rate eHarmony's success rate for me a big fat: FAIL.
 
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I would rate eHarmony's success rate for me a big fat: FAIL.
I would be very curious to hear what the other site(s) is/are which are actually yielding results. I am also curious if your results are primarily guys contacting you or if you are writing guys to get the communication started.
 
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I signed up for a month to try once more. I had tried E a few years ago and had ONE date after a year of question/answer emails. Distance is the HUGE factor for me. All of the great possiblities are 100 miles away. I will be cancelling after the month. I have much more luck with the 'other' site.
 
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I would be very curious to hear what the other site(s) is/are which are actually yielding results. I am also curious if your results are primarily guys contacting you or if you are writing guys to get the communication started.

In the past I had a lot of success on a site that was local, my city only. That site has merged and morphed so many times it really doesn't exist any more. Currently I am on match.com and have met many people from that site. I currently have two promising sounding guys I am communicating with from there, plus the guy from my high school reunion.

I have both initiated communication with guys and waited for them to initiate communication. I have found better results if the guy initiates. If I do, they tend to just let me take the lead on everything... but I want a guy who will be an equal partner and is not just along for the ride. On eHarmony I haven't had any better luck with the ones I've initiated vs. the ones the guy initiated... the net result is ZERO dates from that site.

On match.com I can let them know I'm interested by looking at their profile (and they can see I've looked), by marking them as a "Favorite," and so on. If the guy is also interested he will go ahead and e-mail me.
 
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I've been on eh on and off for about two years, I like eh coz 1)I thought ppl there are more serious for LTR. 2) I like the fact that my info is only available to my matches, so I don't need to explain to my friends or coworkers.

I think the ppl I met are in general more compatible, however, they do have one common problem: they want a serious relationship, but they lack the ability of emotional intimacy.
 
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I met my SO on another site.
Me, too. We're going on 14 months!
 
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Back when I was searching, I had the most dates from eHarmony, and I think they were more compatible personality-wise as well.
 
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[quote=DancingFool;673660]I'd say that date wise I probably would get more dates from other sites than EH, however I still got plenty from EH too. Overall though, the matches from EH were much better quality than those from other sites. So, if you are counting success by just the sheer number of dates you are goin on....well....other sites are probably better. If success is more about compatability, then EH is actually better. I do wonder, OP if you may be closing out too many of your matches for trivial things in their profile......[/quote]

Hey DancingFool, no I haven't closed matches for trival things, in fact I've only been contacted by about 5 out of the 375 matches. I've initiated numerous contacts, which ended up with short lived OC's or no responses.
 
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6dle899 wrote :
You are on the road a lot aren't you?


I travel all the time so this limits me a lot. there are a lot of people to go out with, honestly, but being away from here, all the time, makes it harder to date.

When I do get back here, there is the laundary, to do, the cars and the garden to take care of, schedule the housekeepers' next visit in my absence, and then on the road again.

It is crazy fun, but it is hard not to let some pretty wonderful people fall through the cracks.


I could go on all day with this, but it is not your fault really I think that this happens. It is that you travel so much.


The upside of course, is that travelling that much is sooo much fun!! Since November I have done 5,000 miles on one car, and over 25,000 on my other one, just for touring, visiting my friends, and long distance dating. I am about to leave for the wine country for some R & R, with my cell, digi cam, laptop and GPS. And the ipod if I can find it.

I have been to every corner of California now, done all 58 counties, and consider myself available for long distance dating, it is no real problem, though it is challenging..

Probably I should not say this, but I feel that far and away, the very BEST potential dates and relationship material, and creme de la creme, exist RIGHT HERE on this site, and that is a VERY considered opinion.



I feel that a unremittingly positive happy outlook, perseverance and patience, self confidence and a basic belief in the essential goodness of others (and yourself!!) will lead to success in dating, online and otherwise.


Though I would NEVER go to bars searching for romance or a date though. It is not necessary and I dislike those venues generally.....

Yes, lately I've been on the road a lot (and in the air) .... but why should that matter? The heart grows founder apart, yes? I mean there's always a way to communicate these days ....
 
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I have to admit, I am at my first OC. I've held nothing back, and so far she doesn't seem turned off at my circumstances.

The only hurdle that is troublesome is the distance. She lives 6 hours from me.

Not sure how much luck there is with long distance relationships.

I'm just glad to be on talking terms with one.

This could be "THE" one or not. If anything, I feel like I'm doing something...it beats just hoping Ms. Right is out looking for me...that same attitude is like wating around for Mr. Employer to show up and hire me.

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