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View Poll Results: would you date with genital herpes?
yes, would consider 1 3.70%
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maybe, depending on... 9 33.33%
have and would do it again 1 3.70%
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thoughtidsaysomething is offline thoughtidsaysomething Post #1  July 12,2009, 9:21am
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i want to know if anyone has dated successfully somone with genital herpes? would you do it if you never have? Have you had to make that choice and whats your opinions about it?!!Their are dating sites for those with these problems but think its said not to have as good a match compatibility as Eharm. dont assume I have and dont assume I dont..I just want to know what people are encountering with this issue etc...thanx
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #2  July 12,2009, 9:35am
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I don't have and it has never been brought up with anyone I have dated, either if I have or they have.
 
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thoughtidsaysomething wrote :
i want to know if anyone has dated successfully somone with genital herpes? would you do it if you never have? Have you had to make that choice and whats your opinions about it?!!Their are dating sites for those with these problems but think its said not to have as good a match compatibility as Eharm. dont assume I have and dont assume I dont..I just want to know what people are encountering with this issue etc...thanx
I can answer this question as I do know someone with genital herpes and successfully dated and married. If second hand knowledge is acceptable to answer your question.
 
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Jedi_Scout is offline Jedi_Scout Post #5  July 12,2009, 10:06am
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A friend of mine has herpes he picked up from a "wonderful" person he was with in college. Her attitude was he was old enough to take precautions and she felt no guilt for not giving him a heads-up on it before having sex and passing the disease on to him.

Fast forward. He is now married to a woman who does not have herpes. He has been with her for almost 20 years. They try to be careful but there are no guarantees.

If I was approached by a girl with herpes, it is a major negative in my book. Even being aware of my friend's experience with his wife, I still don't want to gamble. It's a deal breaker.
 
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Herpes, HPV, Hepatitis B,C,D and HIV are all deal breakers for me.
 
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Mooky is offline Mooky Post #7  July 12,2009, 10:25am
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Considering that a large number of people have it, at least 1 in 5, and that up to 80% of people who have it don't even realize because they have no symptoms (or don't recognize them), it's almost impossible to avoid this disease. This means there is a good chance that YOU have it and have been spreading it in ignorance for years.

The responsible thing to do is get tested periodically, and this should be a topic of discussion at some point early in a relationship. But it wouldn't be an issue for me provided she is careful.
 
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solice is offline solice Post #8  July 12,2009, 10:32am
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Ok here are some head ups.... Now what makes you think someone it going to tell you, that he or she has herpes??? I know a female friend that has herpes and she has never told her male friends that she dates!! She never has any outbreaks unless she is stress out or her immune system is down!!! So all MEN that think you would never date any one with GENITAL HERPES, THINK AGAIN, you will be suprise!!!
 
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It would be an issue for me. I know those stats. I want to stay in the 80%!

I did have a friend with it years ago. She dated. She said somebody gave it to her, and she didn't care if she passed it along! She wished the whole world had it so it wouldn't be a big deal.

I do know you can get it even when there is no outbreak. So even with the success stories shown above, I wouldn't take the chance.

 
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Mooky wrote :
Considering that a large number of people have it, at least 1 in 5, and that up to 80% of people who have it don't even realize because they have no symptoms (or don't recognize them), it's almost impossible to avoid this disease. This means there is a good chance that YOU have it and have been spreading it in ignorance for years.

The responsible thing to do is get tested periodically, and this should be a topic of discussion at some point early in a relationship. But it wouldn't be an issue for me provided she is careful.
Where are you getting these numbers? I don't understand how 80% of cases can be asymptomatic when Herpes is a non reportable disease?
 
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