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I've always had trouble with that, never know what exactly to do with a girl that I'm interested in and this article had some really good points, I wonder if that good the author suggested is any good. Anyone know?

- July 12th, 2009, 03:24 am
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I just bought and read the book, and it seems like reasonably good advice, and I'm basically glad I read it, though it remains to be seen if I can put it into practice, and if it will work in that case!
- July 13th, 2009, 09:47 am
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I wouldent know if a guy was flirting with me unless he walked rihjt up to me and said"HI, Im Flirting with you!"

- July 13th, 2009, 11:16 am
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LOL I'm clueless sometimes, when it comes to if a fella is flirting with me or not.
Take my ex for example, he was nice an seemed to always be where I was at for a few months before he jus came out an told me that I was beautiful an sweet an lovely and that he really wanted to see me outside of work LOL.
Before he did that I jus thought that he was being nice. No big right?
After he said he wanted to see me outside of work I looked back at all the things he said an done an realized he was really flirting with me an I had no idea before hand.
SO, to those who want someone they like, I'd say flirt a lil bit then jus come right out an say whats on ya mind, some chicks will never know other wise. (like me)
- July 13th, 2009, 11:38 am
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The book mentioned in the article won't help you recognize flirting, it's more geared towards teaching you to flirt.

I guess it's actually theoretically directed at both sexes, but while I was reading it, I was reading from a male perspective, and it is mostly geared towards how to approach people and how to keep them interested. Since guys tend to initiate and pursue, I guess I was reading it somewhat more as being male-oriented (and because the author is a male and talks about his own experiences), but he also says over and over that women ought to feel comfortable initiating nowadays!
- July 13th, 2009, 04:26 pm
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Sorry guys, but if flirting is an Art, it cannot be learnt from an article or a book, by definition. A book can teach you some techniques, but you need to have the talent to use them.

I couldn't create a painting, but I can certainly flirt
Just tune into the inner artist...
- July 13th, 2009, 05:24 pm
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Sorry guys, but if flirting is an Art, it cannot be learnt from an article or a book, by definition. A book can teach you some techniques, but you need to have the talent to use them.

I couldn't create a painting, but I can certainly flirt
Just tune into the inner artist...
Not just 'can' flirt. You *are* a supremely lunar flirt!

Flirting depends a lot on the two (I *hope* there are only two!) involved. Some people, like me and one of the above posters, are stone deaf to flirting. But we know when *we* are doing so.

And it doesn't hurt... I mean it doesn't help- I meant *help*!- to have a horrendously dirty mind. When you keep seeing these double entendre's everywhere and then someone has the big brass ones to start a sexy ice cream thread *knowing* some of us here have such dirty minds, it is just a flagrant waving flag with the words "I am super flirty!" in bold pink letters...

So go out and employ some of this book learning... but remember that you have to go beyond the book and use your own sense of humor, style, and cunning wit to flirt effectively. All the attention to detail and intricate crafting in the world falls to a single flippant phrase sometimes, so be prepared! Now go out there and make nice with the opposite sex. And by "nice" I mean flirt the pants off of them! (this may take a few months, so be patient- your results may vary. Heed your chirurgeon general's warnings, and always practice safe sex, so you can make it look easy when you're performing for real. Batteries not included. Now go snatch you a real guy/gal and stop reading this post! I mean it!)
- July 13th, 2009, 05:54 pm
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Ambiguous statements are so amusing. The people who write the James Bond movie scripts have me smiling the entire time.
- July 13th, 2009, 11:18 pm
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For some guys like me that are a bit "slow" and sometimes too literal, "flirting" has to be about as subtle as a sledgehammer to a finger. Something like, "I realllllly like you - - I like being around you - - I look forward to seeing you - - Here, hold my hand - - kiss me, will ya. Now."
- July 16th, 2009, 07:44 pm
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Some people are natural flirts that are in constant motion, while others need a bit of synthetic help such as alcohol or other chemical substances.  But to me flirting is not gender specific.  A true flirt in my personal opinion is just a very friendly person who has a nack of being polite, proper, and likeable by many people despite gender.  A person who is flirtacious to only opposite sex has learned to flirt and channel it when they deem it necessary like an on/off switch.  Then there's politicians who flirt with everyone.  Actors flirt with cameras.  A person who is flirtacious to everyone (appropriately of course) and expects nothing in return other than to share a bit of joy into someone else's life is a true and natural flirt in my opinion.  Even natural flirts sometimes have no clue until something or someone awakens the hidden talent.  But eh... all flirts have their place.

- July 27th, 2009, 01:33 am
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