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yeoww is offline yeoww Post #1  July 11,2009, 11:33am
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Many of us have been "poofed on" before and it's not my first time either. I'm posting this because it always helps me to talk about it and I want newcomers to know that it's really a common occurrence.

I'd been talking, for about a month (phone, e-mail, picture exchanges), with a great guy who lives about 60 miles from me. We talked about getting together. Our kids are the same ages, into the same sports, having the same issues in school - etc. etc. And suddenly, last week, he just disappeared - no phone calls, no e-mails - nothing. We'd been talking several times a week and exchanging at least one short e-mail a day and it's been 5-6 days now.

I know that the chances of him having been killed, gravely injured, or abducted by otherwordly life forms are slim, but there's always that tiny percentage of a chance that something did come up - so I did send him a dry, wry e-mail that asked him to please let me know he was okay even if he's "just not that into me" as the book and movie say. I assured him that I wasn't stalkerish and all would be well. Still, nothing...

I'm just about 100% positive that he lost interest or panicked at the thought of meeting and although disappointed, am not stricken - online dating does have its risks *sigh*

Onward! Maybe that lovely connection will happen when I'm 70? I'm not willing to throw in the towel just yet...
 
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Shelby is offline Shelby Post #2  July 11,2009, 1:59pm
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Sorry to hear about another poofer, Yeoww. It's all part of the online dating scene, I'm afraid. I'm virtually positive he had communications with other matches going on at the same time, and one match must have progressed further. At least you know the level of his character.

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I totally agree with what Shelby said.

This is a new century and my impression, being over 50 as you are, that there actually ARE no rules here, at all, in the internet daing age . They just keep having to be made up as they go along.


Also -- for everyone --- you get the impression that there is an inexhaustible pool of dating candidates available at the click of a button on your computer, so why bother being courteous


All of us are probably guilty of it a bit at times, to be honest.



It's nothing personal.


Persevere, yeoww. The law of averages will eventually getcha !!!
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #4  July 11,2009, 4:40pm
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Gee you only have one poofer at the moment, I have like 10
 
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yeoww is offline yeoww Post #5  July 11,2009, 5:00pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Gee you only have one poofer at the moment, I have like 10
Isn't there a saying about bad things coming in threes? At this rate, you're due for some better luck!

I think the anonymity of the internet gives people the freedom to act in ways they normally wouldn't.
 
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Josh_81 is offline Josh_81 Post #6  July 11,2009, 6:26pm
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I have no one to poof. They just close me out or leave me hanging with no reponse.

It's been a month now.

I think yeoww said it best with the internet. I get the feeling that all the communications I start have the girls on the other end just laughing or making me wonder what they are really thinking when they click "other".
 
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Hi,

I am so sorry that happened to you. I had the same thing happen to me this week. I am not sure I understand why internet dating is like this. but it does suck!!!!

Hope you have a great weekend...and we just have to say next...lol
 
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Doesnt just happen on the internet. I just had a girl disappear, we were planning our next date and she quit answering the phone or responding to emails??????????
 
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Sorry yeoww!!! Another one of those...
I am gathering up my strength for that phone call to tell somebody I'm not into him, he has been traveling and I MUST do so and not just poof. It is hard to do.. but it is the only conscious choice!
 
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Josh_81 wrote :
I have no one to poof. They just close me out or leave me hanging with no reponse.

It's been a month now.

I think yeoww said it best with the internet. I get the feeling that all the communications I start have the girls on the other end just laughing or making me wonder what they are really thinking when they click "other".
I understand what you're going through! Only a handful of them even bother to view my profile, and the few that I have tried to communicate with don't bother responding or even closing. I'm starting to think that most of them are "dead" profiles.
 
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