I think the men who are intimidated by women are wussies, period. I totally agree the men who say they are "intimidated" by a woman's career or success are losers.

But if women don't share my core values or if they annoy the heck out of me, I run for the hills. I don't care how wonderful and great and independent they think they are.

In fact, I can't deal with women who don't have a job and can't support themselves. Where I always seem to get burned is I meet women who seemingly have it all together - a good career, own their own car, home, etc., and then they lose their job and turn out to have hidden debt issues/financially irresponsible, or they have crises after crises as time goes on. It turns out they are just golddigging hoping to latch onto a guy to take care of them financially or "rescue" them.

These women are very feminine and are very emotionally available and fun and attractive, but the fact they gradually become dependent on me and financially irresponsible with no ambition is too taxing and ends the relationship.

And then I meet women who are very independent and financially responsible, share my core values, etc., but they end up being very aloof and nit-picky/superficial. It seems like their expectations for a relationship are unrealistic and they want Mr. Perfect I could never be. It is like pulling teeth talking to them and they honestly bore me. It seems like many independent women I have met lack experience in basic interpersonal skills, which is really shocking to me because I would think they had great people skills by advancing in their careers, etc.

What really annoys me about some independent, successful women is they put little effort in learning about relationships and people. I, myself, am busting my tail trying to learn about dating, relationships, etc. I am out there trying online dating, going to happy hours, putting myself out there, reading message boards, books, etc. I am focused on improving myself to the max, losing weight, etc. I fully realize I am not perfect and have issues, but at least I am open-minded and always analyzing and trying to learn and improve myself, and I have come a long way.

The first 2 years I did online dating, I had a total of 1 date. The last 3 years, I have had 2 LTRs from online dating and am now avering 1 date a month and get 1-2 matches a week, and I am obese and nowhere near my best looking or fit self. So I must have done something right, and I will keep learning and improving. I mean, I know men who blow me away in looks and money, and they cant even get a date.

Yet the independent, good looking, financially independent women I meet online always seem to tell me "This is my first time trying online dating". They seem like they want instant results and don't want to put forth the effort to learn about relationships and people. Here I am putting in all this effort, and they don't even lift a finger and expect the guy to carry the load.

Or else I meet very sexy, attractive, fun women who end up being dependent golddiggers.

It seems like it's all about extremes. Why the heck can't I just meet someone in the middle - independent, financially stable, but also emotionally available, fun/easy to talk to, and has strong relationship values ?