Men - are you put off by independent women?

hmm...is that possible? Let's say I'm a 51 year old single parent of older kids, own my home, work full time, take care of inside and out, have hobbies, am happy, content, and keep crossing the next thing off my list.

I'm attractive, fun, not overweight, great cook, passionate, optimistic, and happy. (not a ploy, just stating what you may be wondering).

So why am I still single? Do men really want to take care of women? If so, how come I only meet the ones that want to be taken care of?

I like how this lady sees it. I have my men's team that I take my problems to and she can take her problems to the ladies. I and most men I would imagine like to fix things. Don't get me wrong, we can still chat but venting about problems can go on elsewhere. Why not make the home a sanctuary and a place for fun!

hmm...is that possible? Let's say I'm a 51 year old single parent of older kids, own my home, work full time, take care of inside and out, have hobbies, am happy, content, and keep crossing the next thing off my list.

I'm attractive, fun, not overweight, great cook, passionate, optimistic, and happy. (not a ploy, just stating what you may be wondering).

So why am I still single? Do men really want to take care of women? If so, how come I only meet the ones that want to be taken care of?

You are still single because you are not willing to put forth the effort it takes to make a relationship work. Relationships are relationships, and they take dedication and hard work, period.

Women who don't make a lot of money or are not independent are going to work harder at a relationship than an independent woman. They are going to stand behind their man and fight to keep him.

Give yourself a decade or so. The constant arguments/disagreements/contests of will get draining and just plain tiring.

I don't want a pushover, but I don't want a constant struggle either. I understand I won't get my way all the time, and don't want to deal with someone who expects to get her way all the time either. Mutual respect and compromise without drama are what I'm looking for. Too many times I've seen 'independent women' as code for the type of woman you are interested in. No thanks...

Will you marry me? Oh... ummm... I mean... meant that I appreciate independent women... I travel half the time for work and if a women isn't independent it just won't work... and quite frankly if they need their guy home every night they don't even bother with me. Keep your chin up... you will find the right guy... you don't live near Milwaukee do you? Just checking...

You are still single because you are not willing to put forth the effort it takes to make a relationship work. Relationships are relationships, and they take dedication and hard work, period.

Women who don't make a lot of money or are not independent are going to work harder at a relationship than an independent woman. They are going to stand behind their man and fight to keep him.

I see - so you're saying that women who are more dependent have lower standards and b/c of their dependency they will fight to keep what little they have b/c it's all they have.

Thanks, but I'll stay single for the rest of my life if the only alternative is for me to blindly "stand behind my man and fight to keep him".

Your post says nothing about the other half of the relationship and instead arbitrarily assigns fault to the indep. woman by assuming that since she is independent that she is not as dedicated and committed to her relationship solely b/c her solvency does not depend on licking her husband's boots.

Maybe the correct response is that the men who date indep. women are not willing to commit to the relationship because they are either 1) intimidated or 2) can't get the proper level of subservience you seem to find appropriate or 3) that she has a life that does not revolve around him.

Obviously, both your answer and my admittedly sarcastic one above are completely stereotypical, and I would hope that neither is true. The fact that you would present your argument as being reality implies that the woman's commitment is what makes a relationship and ignores all of the other things that go into making a relationship work. However, we certainly agree on one thing - that relationships are hard work - but obviously both sides of the equation need to be committed to it whether they be indepedent or otherwise.