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Well, I need some advice. I met a girl online, and we have been chatting for the last month and a half online. She lives near where I go to college, so thats good, but this summer, I'm gone in a different state until fall. I kinda want to wait until fall to ask her out, because I don't want to have to wait to actually physically meet with her. So what do you think, should I ask her out, to not beat around the bush basically, or should I play the "friendly chatting" game until fall, and then ask her out when I go back to school?
- July 10th, 2009, 07:43 pm
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Yes, start now!!! No hesitation...

Just because it suits your plans to wait till fall does not mean it suits her objectives. I'm not saying quit everything and rush to her side, but I would definitely recommend making your intentions known to her, and in no uncertain terms.

You can still wait till the fall to meet, but if all goes well, you'll both be looking forward to it.

Good luck!
- July 10th, 2009, 07:58 pm
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I agree to meet her now. There are a number of worthwhile results from meeting now. One of you could immediately determine that you have no interest in a relationship with the other after meeting. Or, you could both be really taken with each other....and can at least keep that in mind over the summer, while either/both of you may meet/date others. 'Strike while the iron is hot'.
- July 10th, 2009, 08:14 pm
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The problem is that meeting her now is basically impossible. I'm hundreds of miles away, and I have to wait till fall until I'm in her area again.
- July 10th, 2009, 08:15 pm
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Gowermi wrote :
The problem is that meeting her now is basically impossible. I'm hundreds of miles away, and I have to wait till fall until I'm in her area again.
Then why did you ask if you should meet her if you can't?

Depending on the miles, could you both meet half way?

I assume she knows all this about the distance? If so, say you would like to meet and go from there. Maybe just knowing you want to meet she will be willing to wait. It's only a couple months.
- July 10th, 2009, 09:12 pm
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Well I guess this kinda answers my questions. I'm in Michigan, shes in Minnesota/ND (on the border). What I'm asking if I should tell her I want to ask her out, then wait till fall to do the actual date.
- July 10th, 2009, 09:27 pm
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Gowermi wrote :
Well I guess this kinda answers my questions. I'm in Michigan, shes in Minnesota/ND (on the border). What I'm asking if I should tell her I want to ask her out, then wait till fall to do the actual date.
Would I be correct in assuming that phones and emails work between Michigan and Minnesota/ND?

I wouldn't know, but I know someone who lives in Minnesota (not on the border of ND), and we communicate all the way between there and New South Wales.

I'm only teasing...
Can you please tell her aready!!!
- July 10th, 2009, 10:43 pm
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Start now. If you wait then you are likely to lose out, she will have found someone else that is interested and took the step to ask her out.
- July 11th, 2009, 07:23 am
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Ben Franklin said: He who hesitates is lost forever!
For a want of a nail the horse was lost!
Strike while the iron is hot!
Seek not, want not!


and in your case: TIME WAITS FOR NO MAN!


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- July 11th, 2009, 10:11 am
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I would assume that this girl knows the distance etc. Though none of us really know what has or has not been said between the two of you.

I would make my intentions known, why not. She proabably has that idea anyways (women detect this!) so it won't be a shock to her really!

Good luck, the distance may be the problem, not her!
- July 11th, 2009, 09:02 pm
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