10 days 6 dates Is there such thing as love at first site?


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missy2u2002 is offline missy2u2002 Post #1  July 9,2009, 5:33am
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So I met this really incredible guy on another dating site and other than the weekend of the 4th when I was out of town we have spent every evening together. Last night I stayed at his place (nothing happend, just cuddling). we have plans for the next 4 days as well. I have enjoyed spending every possible minute with him and he definetly feels the same way. I have never been one to believe in love at first site but I really miss him when he is not with me and I feel like something is missing when we are not together. We seem to fit toghether like a puzzle and have a lot in common. In the last 10 days I have learned so much about him and I just love every little thing. It is a very strange feeling.

Has anyone ever experienced love at first site or with in the first few days? Is this just my imagination running away with me?
 
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This is just my personal opinion and many will disagree with me.

I believe that "love at first sight" and the instant spark is lust. I think that seeing each other at the very beginning is moving too fast and that initially you need some separation time to evaluate what you are seeing, hearing and feeling.

I have never experienced any kind of instant spark, love at first sight so what do I know. I have a friend who recently was in your shoes. She met a guy (if I recall it was her last match before her eHarmony subscription expired) and they spent nearly every waking minute together. This went on for about a month and then it ended just as rapidly as it had begun. We are very good friends and I was kept apprised of how wonderful everything was, how much they had in common, how compatible they were, etc.

I will wish you all the best and hopefully you have found the love of your life. But you did ask so I have shared my opinion.
 
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Thanks for the input - we will have some seperation time - this week has been an exception as my son is out of town for the week and I have a lot of free time. I will definetly be proceeding with caution. No I love you's yet I am not one to say it for a while. I am just curious if it ever actually happens that way.
 
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love at first sight is often cured by a second look
 
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To the OP: It's not love . . . it's "lust", honey!
 
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I have felt the instant spark and I know what you're talking about. But that said, it's very easy to get "burned out" or overlook incompatibilities when you're in this early stage.

The best advice I can give is that even though you may "want" to see this person every waking second, resist this urge. This isn't playing hard to get -- it's called having a life (which it sounds like you do). When you're consumed by this early excitement, it's easy to overlook your friends, your daily life, your regular responsibiltiies - and I would encourage you to make a conscious effort to have some separation. That doesn't mean you have to play stupid games like not returning his call or only seeing him once a week -- but take some time to come up for air. A relationship is a marathon, not a sprint.

But most of all - enjoy it!
 
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It's lust, infatuation, an emotional/chemical high when you meet someone you click with. It happens and it's wonderful when it does. The only word of caution is slow it down....way down.....when a fire blazes like that it tends to die out just as fast..... For love and a lasting relationship you need to have a more steady and calm pace.
 
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That darn lust ...... it is a very strong feeling. However I know things will have to slow down once my son is home as I am not willing to make introductions for quite some time. But between now and then I will enjoy every minute and pray that it continues as we slow to a more reasonable pace.
 
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I had it. I believe in it. I knew from the beginning we were destined to be together. And when I put my heart and soul in it, my dreams came true.

I won't actually disagree with the other posts. Lust can certainly be mistaken for it. So a little caution is in order.

You can test it by seeing other men. If you get that empty feeling inside like "What the heck are you doing here?!" then you know.

There is a difference between loving and being in love. Loving comes softly to you over time. Being in love hits you like a ton of bricks, WHAM!

From the posts I see here, I do believe love at first sight can be rare indeed. But if a person is fortunate enough to experience what you feel, I say GO FOR IT! Don't let anything stand in your way.

Mine died, otherwise I'd still be there. I count it a blessing every day I had 15 years with him. Had I known from the beginning it would end in my tears, I still would have run towards it as a person running for shelter from the storm.

You go, girl!!!
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Thank you that is very encouraing. I have had a couple other dates, I know hard to believe since we have spent so much time together, but I was talking to 2 other people when I met him and there really is no interest, even after running into my old flame yesterday, that I thought was the best thing ever, did not phase me, there used to be that little flutter when I would see him and now I see what a jerk he really is. Like I said though I will proceed with causion and inevitably things will have to slow down but I am stunned by my own reactions and loving every minute, every little text, note and smile he sends.
 
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