Just shaking my head in confusion about the guys who have contacted me.

I'm kind of new to this site, but I've been hanging around some of the cheaper sites for a few weeks and I can agree there are some strange people out there. I can tell by the trepidation that women have to any advances. I'm personally trying to learn to be a little more forward. At my pace, I would be in Guided Communication for 6 months. Others are in some hurry to satisfy whatever need they're here to satisfy, so they don't follow basic social guidelines for a conversation with a stranger.

In other words, I have to agree with the women on this. It isn't just men-bashing, it's horny creep-bashing. God, I hope there's a difference.

I am not sure how being obsessed with totem poles makes the guy a "creepy" guy.

I would think that this is not the right site for you or you have not grown very much and tainting yourself with your own poison pen that your attracting the kind of guys that your trying to get away from.
Maybe fantasize a bit and see if you can attract your fantasy guy?
Maybe the current you is a turn off? Actions speak louder then words and you see the results of your words?

Harvey7.

These women should marry other women... they have so much in common... like men bashing...

Guys have it tough because they're supposed to be the initiator all the time. There are countless other threads on here of women complaining that the guy has not made the next move of asking her out. So the guy is either a "creep/stalker" or "shy loser/wimp"...

I really don't know what to make of it. I've been out of the dating world for quite a long time, well, not THAT long but still long enough.

The first 'match' sounded like the perfect match for me in terms of our likes, dislikes, interests, etc. I didn't care for his looks but the rest of it sounded really good. Then the creep factor came after four or five e-mail exchanges within e-Harmony. He wanted Open Communication right off and kept giving me his phone number and e-mail address at practically each communication but I told him that I felt more comfortable using eHarmony was a vessel for communication. He didn't push it after that. But then he tells me he has a collection of totem poles, and primitive weaponry and when asked where he keeps it all, he told me that he has five fertility totem polls in his bedroom and facing his bed. That really creeped me out and I told him so. I don't mind collecting interesting things because I do that myself but dang! to go into that much detail to someone he barely knows and he also used a vulgarity which i didn't appreciate either. Am I being too sensitive? Does he sound creepy to anybody else?

The next 'Romeo' started off his e-mail with in-depth questions as well as unfounded assumptions that I didn't provide my real name, when in fact i did. Rather than getting to know each other it seems he is pulling out the tough questions right away and also commenting that when dating he is a one woman man. Like we aren't even dating and this guy is asking questions about what do i think about his relocating after we get married. What say you to that?

And just because I am a Christian and live according to basic Christian life principles, I keep getting paired up with Pastors, either lay or lead. This frustrates me because I am so not the pastor wife type. I am too much of a free spirit and absolutely hate being the center of attention or watched for my manners, etc. Is there any way to put a 'pastor' block on future 'matches' Just because one has a deep commitment to Christianity doesn't necessarily mean they want to be with a pastor. At least not me. Just someone who shares the same beliefs.

your feedback would be greatly appreciated!

butterflywhisperer

Okay, Harvey, you are just so off the wall here. I appreciate your bluntness but not when you blast someone with no positive proof of what you are saying. I think you need to get your foot out of your mouth.