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She is Hispanic and having dated many of them I know sometimes they dress sexy but that doesn't mean they want to be picked up.
No generalizations here!
- July 9th, 2009, 07:32 pm
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Guys have been told one of our flaws is talking way to much on a 1st date about our job, family, etc. What does it mean when a woman talks literally 98% of the date about her family issues, ex's, God, financial struggles, she is wanting to get married...settle down, her two jobs and children? This woman is a pharmacy tech at my grocery store.

I wouldn't even throw this question out but this 39 year old shows up on our second date...same day as our first... in a mini shirt and sexy t-shirt. She is Hispanic and having dated many of them I know sometimes they dress sexy but that doesn't mean they want to be picked up. She is a 8.5 from the neck down and a 6-6.5 from the neck up.

As the date wore on I thought she would be a great FWB but I also wondered if she was "auditioning" for me with the sexy outfit, told me her issues and if I'm game....We did kiss goodnight but I really felt her outfit was for show only last night, so I was a good boy.

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You talk too much....
- July 9th, 2009, 07:47 pm
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Why string her along? In her monologue, she clearly stated she wants a LTR and you've pegged her for a FWB from the outset. Kinda crappy IMO to add more drama to this woman's life by pretending to go along with her program when you just want to get l a i d. Karma is a b-word. Do her a favor and let her find someone who doesn't think he's superior to her.
- July 9th, 2009, 09:01 pm
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Why string her along? In her monologue, she clearly stated she wants a LTR and you've pegged her for a FWB from the outset. Kinda crappy IMO to add more drama to this woman's life by pretending to go along with her program when you just want to get l a i d. Karma is a b-word. Do her a favor and let her find someone who doesn't think he's superior to her.
+10 (notice I'm rating her a "10" both above and below the neck...)
- July 9th, 2009, 09:46 pm
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Wow, I haven't read the posts here in a few days and this thing has taken on a life of it's own.

First off I sincerely apologize for using a number to describe my date's attractiveness. I don't usually do it but I did this time and I don't have any excuse.

I was right as were some previous comments that my date dressed like that to show me what she has to offer a guy 12 years older and in exchange I was going to be crazy about her, fall madly in love with her and would let her move in to my house as soon as possible. She works just down the street and I happen to live in the old money part of town and she felt I instantly qualified.

At first I thought she was just telling me all that stuff because she liked me. When she didn't ask me questions about fun stuff or light hearted things I grew puzzled and that's why I wanted to get some input from ya'll.

yeoww, sorry about the generalization. I didn't mean it in a bad way AND not only have I dated Latina women but my wife was Hispanic so I'm not prejudice. In addition, I've had friends visit who found out the hard way not to judge a Latina by the way she dresses when we've gone out for the evening.
- July 10th, 2009, 10:47 am
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Skyking6976 wrote :
Wow, I haven't read the posts here in a few days and this thing has taken on a life of it's own.

First off I sincerely apologize for using a number to describe my date's attractiveness. I don't usually do it but I did this time and I don't have any excuse.

I was right as were some previous comments that my date dressed like that to show me what she has to offer a guy 12 years older and in exchange I was going to be crazy about her, fall madly in love with her and would let her move in to my house as soon as possible. She works just down the street and I happen to live in the old money part of town and she felt I instantly qualified.

At first I thought she was just telling me all that stuff because she liked me. When she didn't ask me questions about fun stuff or light hearted things I grew puzzled and that's why I wanted to get some input from ya'll.

yeoww, sorry about the generalization. I didn't mean it in a bad way AND not only have I dated Latina women but my wife was Hispanic so I'm not prejudice. In addition, I've had friends visit who found out the hard way not to judge a Latina by the way she dresses when we've gone out for the evening.
Whew!...thanx for the clarification. I was wondering what you would have thought of me if I had been your date!

But do you really think she dressed that way to try and snag you becaue you live in the "money part" of town?

I have latin blood flowing through my veins (my father was Cuban...deceased now), and have enough of my own money to not have to dress that way to try and get my hands on a man's money. I just like to dress like a woman and prefer not to wear slacks. At 5'1, skirts/dresses and heels work best for me...pants tend to truncate my body. In addition, though I am 10-13 pounds over my perfect BMI, I am not overly-endowed, by any means, and thus have no problem wearing a low-cut shirt.

I mean, if a man has a magnifying glass and is that desperate, I guess he can get a peek at something, but trust me that would be time-consuming and certainly not worth the effort....and if he feels so inclined to make assumptions about me based on the way I dress, those are his issues, not mine.

I'm just sayin'....

(sashaying and doing the salsa back to my corner....*s*)
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I have to laugh because not to long ago I started a thread asking why women I've met on eH didn't wear skirts or maybe a sun dress on a date. Didn't know if it was an age thing, climate or what...just curious...then I had a date with this woman.

I had a brief visit with this woman yesterday on her lunch break. She told me she'd driven by my house and it was beautiful...asked me if I had a pool in the back...what did it look like (got my address from the pharmacy database I guess). She told me that her son moving back in has cost her extra for electricity and food and it was going to be tough making her car payment. Should I go on legend29, I could?

Fortunately, our lunch ended with just a smile...no physical contact, and she said she would call after work. Thank God that call never came and I have no intention of calling, texting or whatever...it's over and I'm just looking forward to the weekend....interesting experience though.

legend29 your premise is correct but not in this particular case.
- July 10th, 2009, 01:06 pm
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Skyking6976 wrote :
I have to laugh because not to long ago I started a thread asking why women I've met on eH didn't wear skirts or maybe a sun dress on a date. Didn't know if it was an age thing, climate or what...just curious...then I had a date with this woman.

I had a brief visit with this woman yesterday on her lunch break. She told me she'd driven by my house and it was beautiful...asked me if I had a pool in the back...what did it look like (got my address from the pharmacy database I guess). She told me that her son moving back in has cost her extra for electricity and food and it was going to be tough making her car payment. Should I go on legend29, I could?

Fortunately, our lunch ended with just a smile...no physical contact, and she said she would call after work. Thank God that call never came and I have no intention of calling, texting or whatever...it's over and I'm just looking forward to the weekend....interesting experience though.

legend29 your premise is correct but not in this particular case.
LOL..I see your point Sky!..You are having truly bad dating experiences, aren't you? (adios mio!!!!!!!!)

But maybe you need to re-assess what it is about you that attracts these broke, financially unstable women...or what choices you are making where you are constantly meeting these type of women?????

No offense....but I'm thinkin' Bimbo City, maybe?

Stay here on EH...I have gotten to know some really quality women on eha boards that I have developed great friendships with. All hard-working ...and for the most part career woman who make their own way and are not afraid to let a man know they don't need him for much of anything except great company and respect!

If the women on the eha boards are indicative of the type of women on this dating site...you should be upgrading quite a bit from your past dates. If you met the women you spoke of on EH...try raising your standards and spending more communication to maybe gauge their financial and mental stability! (*smile*)

(Oh yeah...from a woman's POV...the men aint so bad either!)

Happy Hunting!
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Thanks legend29.

No this woman was just someone I've spoken to on several occasions when I get my Prilosec refilled at the grocery store pharmacy. No big deal really. When I talked to her at work she was sweet, flirty and seemed smart...wow how different we can be away from work...my goodness.

I have met some nice women on eH but it's different dating at around 50 years old than when I was a man about town. I enjoyed being single and enjoyed the company of a woman...if one was busy there was always another one to do something with. My wife was gone to soon...but I've moved on and enjoying this time understanding what women my age enjoy doing, what's important to them and it's way different than before...
- July 10th, 2009, 05:15 pm
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Thanks legend29.

No this woman was just someone I've spoken to on several occasions when I get my Prilosec refilled at the grocery store pharmacy. No big deal really. When I talked to her at work she was sweet, flirty and seemed smart...wow how different we can be away from work...my goodness.

I have met some nice women on eH but it's different dating at around 50 years old than when I was a man about town. I enjoyed being single and enjoyed the company of a woman...if one was busy there was always another one to do something with. My wife was gone to soon...but I've moved on and enjoying this time understanding what women my age enjoy doing, what's important to them and it's way different than before...
Ahhhhhh...you are becoming wiser with age grasshopper!

Enjoy dating for what it is...a chance to meet some really great (and not so great people) and to learn maybe a bit about yourself.

I used to make all the wrong choices in men....they were all controlling butt-heads. I had to stop coming down hard on men and sit back and take a real long hard look at myself to try and figure out what it was (is) about me that attracts these type of men, or why I gravitated to these men.

I have learned that it takes a lots of re-wiring of my brain to re-think my choices and avoid these men. Sometimes it is just a matter of saying " I appreciate your interest, but I think I will not be dating anymore men like you" and sashaying past them...or just running like the wind when I see (or smell) one coming toward me with that over-confident smile! (yes...I can now 'smell' arrogance hiding under a veneer of charm and wit!...lol)

I'm not perfect, and I am still attracted to men like this. It takes lots of will power to 'Just Say NO!'....but I am making small steps towards truly being happy every time I refuse a date with someone like this.

Wish you well in your dating travels!

(Geez...is there a 12-step program for keeping away from megalomaniac men...or a self-help book titled "Controlling Men and the Women Who Love Them: Tales from the Darkside"????...*sigh*)
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