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So, I was reading the sexiest ice cream flavor thread (I heart ice cream) and I had a random thought... about dating and $$...

I am not sure if this is the norm, and this is not about what you spent on dinner/shows but with what you do to get ready for the date. For me, when a guy I really like asks me out... I get a bit excessive with the getting ready part...

If it's a proper date, I end up doing the whole package, dress, shoes, make-up, hair, nails, accessories... the whole nine yards. Most often times, it's more than the night's entertainment. Now, mind you, this is when I was younger, still, now... when I go out on a date date, while I tone it down (especially with this economy), I still get really dolled up...

Anyone else there did/does the same?
- July 5th, 2009, 05:15 pm
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funny, I was just thinking about that today...and we have talked about that here before, when guys talk about how they are the ones always shellling out the dollars....not so much. But usually it gets shot down as "you don't need to do that" right...most of us do it, and if not money, just time....like every woman shaves her legs daily

Anyway, I am getting ready for a wedding I am in next weekend, running around trying to find all the things I need....and I started to laugh when I recall a time I had a date with a guy I really liked to a wedding...someone I didn't even know. I remember I went out and purchased a dress, shoes, bag, etc. I mean...matching shoes and bag. I don't remember if I had my hair done or not.

I don't know the most I have ever spent for a date, before hand but it's over $100 (more than once) and that is not counting getting my hair done, since I get my hair done every few months anyway, but I would schedule an appointment to be sooner if need be, depending on where the date fell in my schedule!

I've never actually tallied up the most i've ever spent though...its just not my style
- July 5th, 2009, 05:39 pm
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dress/clothes, makeup, nails, etc.... isn't that stuff you already have??... or do you buy this stuff anew each time you go out on a date?

have you ever offered to pay for the gas for your date's car? offered to pay for parking/tolls? have you offered to pay for his soap/shampoo/cologne all in the name of going on a date?

you make it sound like you're doing some guy a favor by going out with him.
- July 5th, 2009, 05:41 pm
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Oh, you met on the outfit, etc. Never thought about it and when I began to, I decided against it. It's obscene.
- July 5th, 2009, 05:45 pm
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Unless they've been married, most men have no idea what it costs to maintain a woman!
- July 5th, 2009, 06:00 pm
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txbubba wrote :
do you buy this stuff anew each time you go out on a date?

Hey, look on the bright side.

If you marry her, she can't very well complain if you buy a new gun every time you see a varmint.
- July 5th, 2009, 06:05 pm
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I would say that I average about $50 a date. sometimes I don't shop before a date, most of the time I do. If I am regularly dating, I am shopping enough that I often have someting to wear. But I am shopping a lot because I am dating...
- July 5th, 2009, 06:08 pm
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txbubba wrote :
dress/clothes, makeup, nails, etc.... isn't that stuff you already have??... or do you buy this stuff anew each time you go out on a date?

have you ever offered to pay for the gas for your date's car? offered to pay for parking/tolls? have you offered to pay for his soap/shampoo/cologne all in the name of going on a date?

you make it sound like you're doing some guy a favor by going out with him.
I'm not sure I follow your logic.

But no, I'm in it for the "free meal" and awkward conversation.
- July 5th, 2009, 06:15 pm
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j0hn8andy wrote :
Unless they've been married, most men have no idea what it costs to maintain a woman!
Would you elaborate on this, please?
- July 5th, 2009, 06:15 pm
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The irony of going out and buying new shoes and a new dress for going out with a new guy is that the guy isn't going to know if you were the dress and the shoes on a date the previous week. But if she has the money and wants to try to impress me she can go for it. Certainly if she is spending her money on some very attractive attire
- July 5th, 2009, 06:17 pm
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