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Mr_Right wrote :
Yes, and yes.
Gee, that was helpful, Mr. Right! Care to elaborate?
- July 6th, 2009, 10:33 am
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When_I_See_You_Smile wrote :
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Thanks for making me smile!

I, too, have the problem of running out of creative options. And you're right, guys often wear the same three outfits, over and over again (which I don't mind in the least!). However, it seems like I always worry about whether he's going to remember my outfits or not. LOL!

Where's selective memory, when you need it?!

So, I'm curious.

Men, do you really notice, and then remember, what a woman wears on every date, or, is it really about what she wears on special occasions?

Even better, do you only notice that she looks beautiful?

And I agree that starting over can be a huge pain in the you-know-what! As for "fixing" my hair, I always wear it down. Problem solved!

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Define outfit. I have tons of different shirts and several pairs of khaki pants and that is what I usually rotate through either with my leather shoes or leather sandals depending on the occasion. If things are really special I break out the black slacks and a nice shirt. Tie or not tie depending on where we are going.

As for your two questions, I certainly don't remember every outfit a date wears on each date. I do still remember some of my favorites that my ex wore. And yes, I do notice when I date looks beautiful and I tell her.
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And yes, I do notice when I date looks beautiful and I tell her.
I think that is what matters in the end, having a good time and having your date compliment you... I think that is why we do what we do, either going with our existing outfits or going with something new. In the end, it's about how special we are making it and knowing that we put in the effort to look good (and being noticed of course).
- July 6th, 2009, 11:13 am
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It has nothing to do w/ that; it's just innate. And it's all about the shoes.
Ha! Ha! I *HEART* shoes and it's absolutely all about the shoes!
- July 6th, 2009, 11:17 am
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I have never gone out and bought a new outfit, shoes, etc. specifically for just a date. I already have these things in my wardrobe, and a new guy has never seen them before so why go buy yet another? I dress appropriately for the occasion... whether a casual dinner, drinks after work, or maybe a concert... but from clothes I already own that reflect my personality and where we're going.

And.... I DO shave my legs every day! I like them that way.
well I certainly wasn't speaking for you...or all women.

But a lot of women do put extra effort in for dating (maybe you are like that every day, I'm not).

Personally, I like to put the extra effort in for dating, and I like to look for something new. And since I don't shop a lot otherwise, it keeps me up to date instead of buying a lot of clothes at once just hoping I have somewhere to wear it.

I have to maintain a few different wardrobes...work, fall, summer, spring, winter, nightlife, dating....etc.

I tend to put the fun clothes on the backburner and buy them when neccessary.

It's not that I am being someone I'm not. Dressing up to go out and date is...who I am.

But if I'm not dating a lot it makes more sense financially to maintain only the necessities, like my work clothes and casual stuff to go to the store or workout or whatever. I dress nice (enough) on a daily basis but I'm usually not out to impress.

Maybe some women don't dress to impress in a relatinship or while dating, but I like to. If I were rich I'd probably do it every day. But I'm not! So I get by with basics when the situation calls for it.

Regardless, even if I don't buy anything new...It usually takes a good hour or 3 to get ready, and the closet is strewn about the bed....hopefully its atleast a first date and he isn't coming back to see the mess I've made of the bathroom or the bedroom, probably the kitchen too (don't ask)
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Personally, I like to put the extra effort in for dating, and I like to look for something new. And since I don't shop a lot otherwise, it keeps me up to date instead of buying a lot of clothes at once just hoping I have somewhere to wear it.

I have to maintain a few different wardrobes...work, fall, summer, spring, winter, nightlife, dating....etc.

I tend to put the fun clothes on the backburner and buy them when neccessary.
I like the way you work. I am the same. I don't shop for "just one wear," instead, I like to think of how often I can utilize it... from party clothing to work wardrobe. It's all about the presentation at times. :-)

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Wow! The superficiality was deep on this one. I was thinking this was to be more about how much woman contributing to the actually costs of the date. Not how much she spends on herself. Who cares???
- July 6th, 2009, 12:13 pm
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Wow! The superficiality was deep on this one. I was thinking this was to be more about how much woman contributing to the actually costs of the date. Not how much she spends on herself. Who cares???
Okay then. Last year I invited a date out for dinner at a French restaurant nearby where I live. Taxi there and back to my house for both of us $70, the meal plus wine $600. And yes, I paid for it all as I was the one that invited and chose the restaurant.
On any other dates where I'm invited, I always pay half.
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Wow! The superficiality was deep on this one. I was thinking this was to be more about how much woman contributing to the actually costs of the date. Not how much she spends on herself. Who cares???
LOL! We've covered that ad nauseam, in all of the "Who Pays For the Date?" threads!

As for myself, I normally try to help pay for things, especially after the first couple of dates. I love to treat a guy to dinner, or pick up tickets to a sporting event that I know he would enjoy.

I recently spent $800 on a plane ticket, in addition to all of the aforementioned clothes, hair, nails, etc... He covered all of the meals, activities, and such. So, splitting the cost worked out just fine for us.
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Okay then. Last year I invited a date out for dinner at a French restaurant nearby where I live. Taxi there and back to my house for both of us $70, the meal plus wine $600. And yes, I paid for it all as I was the one that invited and chose the restaurant.
On any other dates where I'm invited, I always pay half.
That is an expensive meal! I guess if you choose the restaurant, though, you should know what to expect.
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