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Wootz wrote :
So ladies, there are some guys out there that have an inkling of it. And on behalf of all such men, we *bloody* well appreciate it. Walking into a room where heads turn and all the male patrons turn green with envy gives us the mega-jollies. I think it cannot be overstated that we do love the female form- it is a delight to all the senses. Go ahead. Get all dressed up to the nines. I, for one, *love* it.
haha for sure, I totally love it and appreciate it as well if she wants to go all out, I don't expect it though. I'm just happy if she shows up

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And guys, don't tell me you have never bought a new shirt for a date?
Definitely.
- July 5th, 2009, 09:43 pm
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cp30 wrote :
oh but remember Wootz. We woke up that way.....no work at all, no sir.
I am quite prepared to suspend disbelief on that... Happily so... Until we spend the night together. Then all bets are off, but by that point, who cares?

Also, later on... When cohabitating, I've found it's nice just to pop in an watch while my s/o is puttong on makeup. Just for a moment, to smile, because it is something I enjoy. Then go get ready myself, because I need all the help I can get!
- July 5th, 2009, 09:49 pm
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I don't buy anything 'special'. I do however put a lot of 'prep' work beforehand (sometimes up to 2 hrs). Of course by then, I've pulled everything out of the closet . My cat finds this very entertaining!
- July 5th, 2009, 09:52 pm
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The irony of going out and buying new shoes and a new dress for going out with a new guy is that the guy isn't going to know if you were the dress and the shoes on a date the previous week.

It has nothing to do w/ that; it's just innate. And it's all about the shoes.
Sounds good to me!

But just to stray from fun for a minute...
It's about self-image, which women derive from the image in the mirror and reactions from their men, and even strageners on the street.

And self-image can either make us or break us. A positive self-image gives us confidence and a feeing of comfort. A negative self-image usually leads to addictions, compulsions, eating disorders, depression, etc.

For men the same applies, but not as much related to appearance, but mainly in the area of financial security and financial success.

And unfortunately only 10-20% of population (according to stats) report a posititve self-image.

But we can easily help each other with compliments, which is the good news

And I'm ready for more fun and games, which can help even more
- July 5th, 2009, 10:08 pm
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The irony of going out and buying new shoes and a new dress for going out with a new guy is that the guy isn't going to know if you were the dress and the shoes on a date the previous week. But if she has the money and wants to try to impress me she can go for it. Certainly if she is spending her money on some very attractive attire
I was thinking the same thing. For me, I can throw on the old tried and true "best impression" outfit and I'm good. It's after we've been dating for a couple of weeks an he's seen them all that I start to run out of creative options. Which is hilarious because the guy has probably worn the same 3 outfits in rotation the entire time, and will contnue to do so until they wear out.

As far as time goes, though, that's different. I was getting ready for a blind date months ago and had my outfit all picked out, complete with some amazing heels since the guy was 6 feet tall. An hour before he picked me up, he called and I found out he was only an inch taller than I was. Not wanting to tower over him, I had to change from heels to flats.

Oh, and yes, I usually offer to drive closer to his place for the 2nd date or pay for part of the date.


Except the only flats I had that didn't look like really preferred women were sandals. So now I had to paint my toenails. And if I painted them I had to paint my fingernails. And the shoes didn't go with the outfit I had chosen, so then I had to change that as well. And the shade of my outfit had an impact on the nail polish color I chose, so... Argh!

This is why I have 2 basic hairstyles (down or in a ponytail) and let it go at that. Otherwise I'd never be able to make it all match.
- July 5th, 2009, 10:40 pm
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...... But usually it gets shot down as "you don't need to do that" right...most of us do it, and if not money, just time....like every woman shaves her legs daily
I have never gone out and bought a new outfit, shoes, etc. specifically for just a date. I already have these things in my wardrobe, and a new guy has never seen them before so why go buy yet another? I dress appropriately for the occasion... whether a casual dinner, drinks after work, or maybe a concert... but from clothes I already own that reflect my personality and where we're going.

And.... I DO shave my legs every day! I like them that way.
- July 5th, 2009, 11:15 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
I was thinking the same thing. For me, I can throw on the old tried and true "best impression" outfit and I'm good. It's after we've been dating for a couple of weeks an he's seen them all that I start to run out of creative options. Which is hilarious because the guy has probably worn the same 3 outfits in rotation the entire time, and will contnue to do so until they wear out.

As far as time goes, though, that's different. I was getting ready for a blind date months ago and had my outfit all picked out, complete with some amazing heels since the guy was 6 feet tall. An hour before he picked me up, he called and I found out he was only an inch taller than I was. Not wanting to tower over him, I had to change from heels to flats.

Oh, and yes, I usually offer to drive closer to his place for the 2nd date or pay for part of the date.


Except the only flats I had that didn't look like really preferred women were sandals. So now I had to paint my toenails. And if I painted them I had to paint my fingernails. And the shoes didn't go with the outfit I had chosen, so then I had to change that as well. And the shade of my outfit had an impact on the nail polish color I chose, so... Argh!

This is why I have 2 basic hairstyles (down or in a ponytail) and let it go at that. Otherwise I'd never be able to make it all match.
Chawks,

Thanks for making me smile!

I, too, have the problem of running out of creative options. And you're right, guys often wear the same three outfits, over and over again (which I don't mind in the least!). However, it seems like I always worry about whether he's going to remember my outfits or not. LOL!

Where's selective memory, when you need it?!

So, I'm curious.

Men, do you really notice, and then remember, what a woman wears on every date, or, is it really about what she wears on special occasions?

Even better, do you only notice that she looks beautiful?

And I agree that starting over can be a huge pain in the you-know-what! As for "fixing" my hair, I always wear it down. Problem solved!

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Like every other guy I dont really care of what I wear during a date. I feel fine about what I wear as long as the clothes don't smell. But I do remenber what my date wears. However; I agree, all I really remenber is if she was beautiful and if she made me feel special. In my opinion as long as she is dressed according to the appropiate occasion i don't mind what she wears. However a woman can never go wrong by wearing a sexy skirt and high-hills.
- July 6th, 2009, 12:34 am
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When_I_See_You_Smile wrote :
So, I'm curious.

Men, do you really notice, and then remember, what a woman wears on every date, or, is it really about what she wears on special occasions?

Even better, do you only notice that she looks beautiful?

And I agree that starting over can be a huge pain in the you-know-what! As for "fixing" my hair, I always wear it down. Problem solved!

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Yes, and yes.
- July 6th, 2009, 04:27 am
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Faira wrote :
Would you elaborate on this, please?



How many men know what YOU spend (time and money) on clothes, let alone all the goodies (lingerie, shoes, hair, nails, toiletries, cosmetics)?

- July 6th, 2009, 07:41 am
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